【玳瑚師父玄悟語】 不要忘了你手上的戒指
Don't forget the ring on your finger (English version below)
有男客人向我埋怨太太如何不賢淑，家裏老是打理不好。也有女客人投訴先生錢賺不多又不體恤她的辛勞。 有客人雇用我的服務， 因爲想知道破裂的婚姻是否能挽回。 也有男客人在深夜播電向我哭訴太太無法原諒他的婚外情而遭逐出家門。 更有夫妻各自‘精彩’後，來問我如何是好。
我的副業，仿佛就是家庭輔導官。
結婚前，要想清楚，最好能夠請個專業可靠的師父來分析彼此的八字是否匹配。 結婚了，就不要貪戀外頭的‘風景’。 不要以為有很多仰慕者就很有面子， 一不謹慎，叫你賠了夫人又折兵。 有客人問我為什麽某某某那麽風流，卻還那麽有錢。 試問凡夫怎麽看得懂因果呢？他家裏有問題，難道會告訴你嗎？孽障之事不是不報，只是時辰未到。
人非聖賢，確實難免會犯錯。 最重要是不要重倒覆轍。 當對方犯錯時，你要去想想他/她過去怎樣對你好，試著去包容原諒。 夫妻之間如果沒有縫，第三者怎麽進的來？有時，需要檢討的是自己的過失。
人爲什麽會做錯事？ 因爲心裏沒有主。 我常鼓勵客人給自己生命一個機會。如果夫妻之間能有共同的信仰，那更好。 宗教讓我們深刻地明瞭對與錯、是與非，並給予我們智慧和定力去面對人間的種種誘惑。
有些夫妻本來是恩恩愛愛的，但一搬進新家後，問題就來了，總是為了一些小事便吵起來，孩子越來越難教，之間的距離越來越大，導致一發不可收拾。 這是家居風水嚴重出了問題。 無奈現代夫妻寧可花萬元在新穎的屋内設計和名牌包飾，也不願投資千元百元在優秀的風水以保障他們的未來。 有客人說伴侶不信玄學，但沒有研究就說不信，不也是迷著於不信嗎？
我常告訴客人，當你們吵架時，要想到你們手上的戒指。 當初爲什麽要戴？ 你曾經給過對方的一個承若，爲什麽現在會這樣？ 結婚是自己選的， 能夠在一起，就該好好地相處，不要成天吵吵鬧鬧的，利用在一起的緣份去做一些有意義的事情，不是更好嗎？ 當下就惜緣惜福吧！
祝願所有的夫妻家庭圓滿、共同推廣菩提事業、利己利他、快樂吉祥！
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I get some male clients complaining about their better half. They grumble that their wives are not virtuous enough, with their homes poorly kept. My female clients also have their fair shares of grouses on their partners too. Be it the low income of the husband, or the lack of appreciation on the effort put into the marriage and home by the wife. There are clients who engaged my services to see if their broken marriages can be salvaged; I received calls from male clients in the middle of the night, weeping that they got booted out of the house because of their infidelity. There were even cases of both partners committing infidelities, and asked me how to keep their marriage from there on.
I seem to have unknowingly became a family counsellor on the sideline.
I urge everyone to have a serious think-through before committing yourself to marriage. It is in the best interest of both parties to engage a professional geomancer to determine the degree of compatibility based on the birth charts of the couple. Once married, steer clear from external temptations. Having lots of admirers may make you feel good but a single missed step will result in an ugly ending for you. A common question I get from clients is regarding the law of karma. They are puzzled as to why some people are committing acts of sexual misconduct yet still enjoying great wealth. My answer will be: The universal law of karma is always fair, we just need patience for the time and conditions to ripen.
Human is by no means a saint, thus to err is definitely human. Importantly, we should not repeat our mistakes. When we face our loved ones whose misdeed has hurt us, think of the good that they have done for us. Empathize with their own weaknesses and seek to forgive them. In self-retrospect, if there were no fault lines or cracks in a marriage, a third party would not appear.
Why do human beings make mistakes? Because of the lack of a guiding light. If a couple share the same faith, it is most beneficial as they will share a deep and common understanding on the definition of right and wrong, providing the wisdom and conviction to face the many temptations of the world.
A lot of couples started out very lovingly, but things take a turn for the worse when they move into a new house. Little things become unbearable, sparking quarrels. The kids became 'monsters' and everyone in the family drift apart. This is obviously a huge issue with the new house and its Feng Shui. It is such a pity to see that couples who will not think twice about splurging tens of thousands on the renovation & branded bags & watches, but flinch at the thought of investing a thousand or hundreds on good Feng Shui to secure their family future. Some clients say their partners give the excuse of not being superstitious and do not wish to believe in Feng Shui. In my humble opinion, writing off the art & science of Feng Shui without doing proper study into this field strikes me as the truly superstitious ones!
I frequently advised my clients, that when they get into quarrels with their partner, take a step back and think of THE RING on your finger. Remember you chose your own marriage. Go back to the time when it all began, and remember the purity of the promise you made. It is affinity that brings 2 persons together and you should make good use of the definite period of time together. Instead of shouting and fighting all day long, make a change. Isn't it better to do something meaningful together and make the world a better place? Let's start by cherishing being together!
It's my ardent wish for all couples to have a blessed & happy marriage and together embark on a meaningful journey of contributing to the common good of humanity!
