最好的自己不在未來，就在現在。
認真回想，以前我好像在每一段關係中都是在扮演某一個角色，不由自主的在為每個對象做調整。不只有在戀愛上，有時候可能跟朋友、工作夥伴都是，尤其是在前輩面前，常常我都會本能反應似的改變自己。聲音要甜一點嗎？笑話要低級一點嗎？從穿衣服就可以看出，我今天是要跟誰吃飯。雖然是微調，但透露出了一件事，我好像不夠喜歡真正的自己，所以才會擔心大家也不會喜歡真正的我。我告訴自己即使累，但如果持續努力，有一天就能變成大家都喜歡的Lara。
久而久之我和世界的相處模式只有「由外到內」，會依照別人對我的反應去斷定我的下一步。大家會覺得我很好相處，我卻越來越不快樂。現在我慢慢開始懂了，原來我把順序弄反了。我該優先處理的是自己內心的感受，其他人買不買單，其實跟你一點關係都沒有。就像找另外一半，如果我跟夢中情人在一起，但我根本無法在他面前做自己，最後還是會走不下去。
我現在33歲，So What? 終於懂，「當下的自己」才是人生時間軸上最重要的！
對了，有人好奇這次「{}」的意思嗎？簡單說是「大括號」，在數學運算式中稱作「空集合」。數學不好的人就想像一個清空的行李箱吧。「空」不是無，而是無限可能。括號還有另外一個更好懂的意思，就是「優先處理」。將過去整理過後的自己，回歸純粹，態度成熟自信！(失戀後重新出發的人應該很有感觸吧！🤣)
Your best self is not in the future, but in the Now.
Looking back, I seem to have been playing a role in almost every relationship I was ever in. I'm not just talking about romantic relationships. Whether it was with friends or colleagues (especially seniors), I would modify myself almost instinctively. Should my voice be sweeter? My jokes dirtier? If you wanted to know who I was eating with that day, all you had to do was look at the clothes I was wearing.
The changes were subtle, but they still reflected a truth: I didn’t feel like the real me was enough so I was worried that other people would also find her lacking. I told myself that if I just kept working at it, I would someday become a version of Lara that everyone accepted.
Eventually I only knew how to get my cues from the external world. I would always base my next step on feedback I got from others. Most people considered me easy to get along with, but I grew more and more unhappy.
I think I had it all wrong. My first priority should have been listening to my inner voice. Whether or not other people agree with it is not in my control nor of my concern. Take looking for a partner. Even if I found the person of my dreams, it would never last if I couldn’t be myself around them.
I am 33 years old. So What? I finally understand that "the present self" is the most important thing on the timeline of life! It’s time to prioritize me!
By the way, is anyone curious about the meaning of "{}" this time? Besides the more commonly known representation of parentheses as prioritization, these curly brackets are called “the empty set”. The empty what? If like me, math is not your strongest suit, think of it as an empty suitcase. "Empty" doesn’t mean nothing, but infinite possibilities! What will you fill your life with this time?
2021全新專輯《來者何人{}》
數位收聽：https://LaraLiang.lnk.to/DearYou2
<再也沒有你> 陳勢安 Andrew Tan
數位收聽：https://kkbox.fm/Iss26l
#Lara梁心頤2021全新專輯二部曲 #來者何人{} 全球發行
#再也沒有你 #NoMoreU #SoWhat30
i am working on it意思 在 [文法] 時態文法- 看板Eng-Class - 批踢踢實業坊 的必吃
想請教各位一些問題，
1.我在公司，如果我遇到同事，同事問我在這邊工作多久了
我回答: I have been working here for three years.
這句應該沒錯吧(?)，如有錯請指證
2.主要問題在這邊
如果我說 I have worked for three years in XXXX.
意思是，我在XXX公司待過三年，且現在已經離職了
還是說，只是強調我在XXX公司待過三年，沒有提供現在是否在職的訊息
3.還有我在英文文法網站有看到一句英文
You have grown since last time i saw you.
我疑問是不能用進行式、或是現在完成進行式?
還是這句強調的是在這兩年間的變化，所以選用這句
問題有點奇怪，
希望有人能解答!
非常感謝
--
※ 發信站: 批踢踢實業坊(ptt.cc), 來自: 74.193.70.34
※ 文章網址: https://www.ptt.cc/bbs/Eng-Class/M.1472185637.A.3E7.html
謝謝三位高手
關於第二點還是有點疑問
1.(a) I have worked for xxx for 2 years.
我在某些公司有兩年的經驗(沒表明自己是否還在XXX公司)
1.(b)I worked for xxx for 2 years.
用過去式表達這件事情開頭-結束都在過去發生完了，所以我可以知道他已經不在那間
公司了.
1.(c)I had worked for xxx for 2 years until i left.
我在離開XXXX之前有兩年的工作經驗
所以(b)、(c)在這裡算是同樣的意思對吧?
2.gentianpan: 別忘了 context.. 長大，非成長中。Be specific, 否則會誤導
這邊有點不明白，我再花點時間翻翻英文字典了解一下
我換個例子好了
(a)如果我離開我家鄉很久，回去發現改變很多.
可以說
The town has changed a lot.
說話的點在過去到現在的改變，現在或未來有沒有改變不重要
所以我選擇用現在完成式，而不是現在完成進行式
(b)
如果今天在一個都市，看多很多公共工程正在實施
我可以說
The town is changing.
(c)
如果我朋友來找我，他的表請看起來覺得我住的地方變很多
我可以說
The town has been changing for two years.
這邊從兩年前就開始改變了(而現在也正在改變)
這樣對嗎?
因為想搞懂對錯的原因到底是文法錯誤還是情境使用錯誤
所以廢話有點多，謝謝各位了
感謝
※ 編輯: Dennis751212 (74.193.70.34), 08/26/2016 20:02:01
謝謝 g大
我會有那樣的解釋主要是參考
https://www.englishpage.com/verbpage/simplepast.html
The Simple Past can be used with a duration which starts and stops in the past. A duration is a longer action often indicated by expressions such as: for two years, for five minutes, all day, all year, etc.
Examples:
I lived in Brazil for two years.
Shauna studied Japanese for five years.
They sat at the beach all day.
They did not stay at the party the entir
還是他們不一樣呢?
謝謝g大 非常感謝
※ 編輯: Dennis751212 (74.193.70.34), 08/26/2016 22:26:07
... <看更多>