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總是壓力過大、情緒暴躁、終日疲憊嗎？
除了健身，你需要這9招健「心」法
Stressed out? Grumpy? Tired all the time?
You need a mental-fitness regimen.

今天來讀 #華爾街日報 聽聽專家建議
能採哪些步驟讓心靈健壯？
What steps should you include in your mental-fitness regimen? Here is advice from the experts.

1️⃣Make sleep nonnegotiable.
別跟睡眠過不去

Most adults need 7-8 hours of quality sleep. “Following a consistent sleep-wake schedule sends a powerful signal to the brain that the world is safe and secure, which can help reduce anxiety and foster resilience. Setting a consistent wake-up time, counting backward to determine when to go to bed, and creating a relaxing wind-down routine, starting an hour before bedtime.”
多數成人需要7-8小時的好品質睡眠「維持固定的入睡和清醒時間，會對大腦傳遞「這世界很安穩」的強力訊息，這能幫助漸少焦慮和培養復原力。設下定時起床時間，往回算要幾點上床，入睡前一小時安排一段和緩放鬆的儀式。」

2️⃣Set a routine.
養成習慣

Get up at the same time each day. Get dressed! Create a morning ritual—many people write in a journal or set an intention for the day, although just drinking coffee in the same chair works. (I drink a large glass of water first thing, then a cup of coffee, and play with my dog.) Eat meals and exercise at set times. This helps create a sense of predictability in a world that feels out of control.
每天固定時間起床，穿好衣服！創造你的晨間儀式—很多人會寫日記或定當日目標，不過坐在同一張椅子上喝咖啡也有效（我都先喝一大杯水，再喝一杯咖啡，跟我的狗狗玩）固定時間進餐和運動，這能在感覺失控的世界中創造可預期感。

3️⃣Watch your language.
小心言語陷阱

The words we use to talk to ourselves color our outlook. So try to replace “hot” language with “cooler” language. (“This is a challenge but I can handle it,” not “I’m overwhelmed.”) And stop “shoulding” yourself. (“I would like to…” not “I should.”) A simple language change can influence our feelings and, subsequently, our actions.
自我對話會影響我們看事情的眼光，不妨用冷靜言語取代焦躁言詞（「我能面對這項挑戰」取代「我真不知所措」）停止對自己說「應該」（「我想做...」取代「我該做」）簡單的用詞改變能影響我們的感受，而連帶影響行為。

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【飲食養生】根據體質吃辣不傷身

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#「濕熱」人士再吃辣反加重熱
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你適合吃辣嗎？
我們常說五味包括甜、酸、苦、辣、鹹，但其實舌頭只感受到甜、酸、苦、鹹，那麼辣呢？原來辣是痛覺非味覺，辣椒素會產生強烈的刺激性，吃後使人感到灼熱的辛辣感。從中醫角度來看，辣又稱為「辛」，具辛味的食材多具有宣散、行氣、祛散風寒、通血脈及發汗的功效，辛味食物大多屬性偏熱，例如辣椒、薑、蔥、洋蔥、大蒜、胡椒、紫蘇等，都有驅寒補暖的功效，所以身體偏寒人士可以適量食用，亦適合外感或風寒濕邪者食用。要注意氣虛、血虛人士則不宜多吃辛辣食物，以免氣血耗散，令氣血更虛弱。
氣滯、血瘀、濕熱及陰虛體質亦少吃為宜，因為辛辣會加重身體的偏熱症狀，辛辣又會抑制肝臟功能，使經脈不能保持暢通，加劇氣滯、血瘀問題。容易胃痛、胃脹的人亦不宜吃辣，以免加重症狀。
吃辣可以以促進排汗而祛濕，但濕熱體質的話，要祛濕還是多進食健脾祛濕食物例如薏米、淮山、白扁豆、赤小豆等，或者每天飲用一杯米水健脾胃吧。

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Is spicy food good for you?
The five basic tastes we often talk about are sweet, sour, bitter, spicy and salty, but our taste buds can only detect sweet, sour, bitter and salty. So what about “spicy”? Technically speaking, spiciness is not a taste but a pain signal stimulated by capsaicin, causing the burning sensation.

From Chinese medicine perspective, the sense of spiciness is also known as “xin”. Most food with the “xin” sensation promotes dispersion and circulation of qi, dispels cold from the body, improves blood circulation and stimulates the sweat glands. Since most of them are hot in nature, for instance, chili, ginger, scallion, onion, garlic, pepper and Chinese basil, they can dispel cold to keep the body warm when consumed in an appropriate quantity, especially by individuals with cooler bodies and those suffering from externally contracted illness and wind-cold dampness.

On the other hand, individuals with qi deficiency and the blood asthenia condition should limit the intake of spicy food, to avoid further weakening of qi and blood. The same rule applies to individuals with the qi stagnation, blood stasis, damp-heat and yin deficiency body conditions, because the spiciness in food would inhibit the liver function, disrupting the meridian system, hence aggravating the existing problems of the body. Individuals prone to stomach ache and bloating should avoid spicy food as well.

While eating spicy food can help stimulate the sweat glands, and in turn get rid of dampness in the body, individuals with the damp-heat condition are encouraged to consume more food like coix seed, Chinese yam, hyacinth bean, rice bean, or drink rice water instead, as these will further improve the health of the stomach and the spleen.

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Akhirnya Mengandung

Assalamualaikum admin. Tq kalau sudi publishkan. Harap berguna untuk pembaca. Sikit pengenalan, aku maria ( bukannnamansebenar) Umur masuk 3 series. Kawen hampir 5 tahun. Alhamdulillah akhirnya tahun ni Allah bagi rezeki untuk mengandung. Kawan kawan dan family semua teruja. Ramai juga yang tanya tips. Makan apa, buat apa. Jadi saya share sini. Semoga bermanfaat.

Masa sebelum dapat zuriat, kami suami isteri antara manusia yang trauma nak balik kampung. Tengok muka orang pon dah tahu depa nak tanya apa. Mak mertua pon sampai biru muka nak menjawab. Sebab kebanyakkan yng bertanya ni sedara sebelah suami. Tapi mak mertua, dari kami kawen sampai sekarang, sentiasa backup aku. Tq mak. Sayang mak. Mak aku? Mak aku rilek je. Haha. Nak cakap apa je. Lagi mental bila adik yang baru kawen, sepupu sepapat kawen je terus dapat baby. Lepas tu muka masing masing ada yang bangga ada yang serba salah. Bangga sebab dapat baby awal dari aku, serba salah sebab takut aku terasa. Awal awal dulu selalu jadi hindustan. Lari lari menangis dalam bilik. Tapi sekarang dah kental. Rilek je. Di bawah ni antara benda yang aku buat. Aku rasa benda ni la yang menyebabkan aku dapat rezeki ni.

1. Ubah perangai.
Aku jenis tak baik sangat. pemalas, suami suruh buat air pon aku malas, mulut lepas, suka kutuk dan mengumpat orang, sembahyang pon akhir waktu. Sehingga la aku terbaca artikel dan aku dengar ceramah. Ustazah tu cskap macam mana Allah nak bagi rezeki kalau diri kita sendiri tak berapa betul. Sembahyang tak. Agama lintang pukang. Pemalas. Rumah macam tongkang pecah. Bakal baby pon rasa tak sanggup nak dapat ibu yang macam tu. Lagi ayat dia, kalau kita tak sampai tahap solat tahajud atau menangis bila doa pada Allah, maksudnya kita ni tak sampai tahap betul betul nak. Jadi senyap senyap aku ubah diri. Susah wei nak berubah. Tahan mulut ni dari mengumpat, kalau nampak orang tak pandai parking, nak parking pon sampai 70jam, aku tahan dalam hati jangan kutuk orang tu. Kalau pekerja kedai slow buat kerja, aku tahan mulut dan hati jangan cakap apa apa. Aku nampak perempuan gedik gedik depan aku ketawa macam langsuir, aku tahan diri tak cakap apa apa. Aku nampak lelaki hensem dengan perempuan tak lawa, aku tak cakap apa. Aku tahan. Aku tahan. Aku tahan. Haha. the struggle is real bagi orang macam aku. Mohon jangan kecam. Aku tak perfect pon tapi suka buat gaya macam perfect sangat kahkah. Aku sekarang more to bersangka baik. Cakap baik baik pasal orang. Contoh kalau colleague aku datang cakap ” ko tau tak si gayah tu hari hari mc..tapi tengok status fb elok plak pegi shopping” aku jawab ” mm maybe tu yang doktor suruh dia buat” kahkah. Atau ” si mail tu baru je tunang tapi dah putus. Ko rasa kenapa?” Nampak pancingan untuk mengumpat. Tapi aku jawab ” takpe la bukan jodoh dia” haha. Ofismate pon malas jadi malas nak mengumpat bila aku asyik cakap macam tu je. Ok sambung

2. Paksa diri tolong orang
Biasa aku la paling malas nak tolong orang. Aku buat hal sendiri je. Tapi aku ubah. Kalau nampak makcik makcik takut takut nak cross jalan, aku tolong pimpin kan. Nampak pakcik pakcik konfius tengok date roti, aku tolong tengokkan. Nampak budak budak takde duit beli tiket lrt, aku tolong bayar kan. Nampak kedai full tapi ada yang tercegat lama, aku laju laju habiskan makan dan bagi seat pada dorang. Nampak makcik beratur beli goreng pisang, aku bagi turn aku pada dia. Tolong buka kan pintu, tolong angkatkan barang orang. Simple je. Tapi rasa macam tenang jiwa.

3. Sedekah.
Sedekah tak banyak pon. Kadang lepas ambil duit di bank, tengok ada makcik cleaner, aku salam dan selit duit. Nampak pakcik makan dengan cucu, aku bayarkan. Selisih dengan budak sekolah, aku bagi seringgit dua. Kalau makan di kedai, ada balance dua tiga ringgit, aku halalkan. Hujung bulan kalaunada rezeki lebih, aku buat makan makan. Atau kalau ada birthday ofismate, celebrate je dengan kek paling kecil ikut kemampuan aku time tu. Atau bagi hadiah contoh tudung yang beli di muaz. Haha. Aku tak kaya. Tapi nak cuba gembirakan orsng. Atau kalau nampak ofismate yang makin kurus, hari hari tak makan, aku sekali sekala belanja dia makan. Tapi jangan tiap hari, nanti aku plak yang tak makan. Setiap kali pegi masjid, WAJIB bagi yang paling besar dalam purse. Paksa suami buat macam tu juga. Sampai hari tu kami ada 50 je tapi aku bagi juga. Tak niat pon dalam hati semoga Allah bagi rezeki lain berganda ganda. Tapi niat, ya allah aku sedekah ikhlas kerana mu dan aku yakin Engkau menjaga kami seperti mana semut yakin dengan Engkau akan menjaga mereka. Aku buat macam tu sebab ada ustaz bagitau, buat apa apa kena ikhlas dan bukan harapkan balasan dari Allah. Contoh macam ko tolong perempuan dengan harapan dia sudi jadi awek kau. Confirm perempuan tu menyampah. Anggap la macam tu. Korang faham ke? Haha. Kalau tak faham, pandai pandailah.

4. Doa
aku amalkan doa Rabbana hab lana min azwajina wa dzurriyyatina qurrata a’yunin waj-’alna lil-muttaqîna imama.
Artinya, “Ya Tuhan kami, anugerahkan kepada kami, pasangan kami dan keturunan kami sebagai penyejuk hati kami, dan jadikan kami pemimpin bagi orang-orang yang bertakwa”. (QS. Al-Furqan: 74). cuba hayati doa ni sampai menangis nangis. Lain rasa dia. Lain. Korang cuba lah. Hari hari aku doa yang ini. Lepas solat dan kalau saja saja duduk, aku baca doa ni. Ustazah pesan, setiap kali doa, ko kena menangis. Paksa diri tu menangis. Lepas tu paksa mak ayah suami adik beradik dan siapa siapa je yang kau jumpa, untuk doakan kau. Doa orang pada kita antara doa mustajab. Betul dah aku rasa. Kalau silap, ampunkan daku. Kau doa pada Allah, kau nak zuriat kenapa? Niat elok elok. Nak ada zuriat sebab nak jadikan dia khalifah Allah. Pejuang agama. Yang mampu sumbang pahala pada kita dan keturunan. Nak zuriat sebab nak sama sama bina keluarga islami. Nak eratkan hubungan suami isteri. Nak peneman dan semangat untuk lebih dekat dengan Allah. Niat kena betul. Kalau ada terlintas dalam hati kau, nak zuriat sebab nak pakaikan baju lawa lawa, nak bertanding fengan orang, istighfar terus. Korang yang ttc macam aku ni kena set dalam kepala. Kita ni special kes, jadi kita kena buat betul betul.

5. Dekatkan diri dengan agama.
Tak perlu sampai jadi ustazah.. tapi hari hari kena paksa diri tu mengaji dan baca tafsir, paksa diri solat awal, paksa diri berdoa dan berzikir lepas solat. Paksa diri dan suami solat berjemaah. Jaga solat biar solat kita berkualiti. aku jenis mekap. Kalau nak solat, aku ambil je wudhuk tak basuh dulu mekap aku. Disitu air wudhuk bukan sah pon. solat aku? Lagi la tak sah. Aku terbayang solat yang tak berkualiti ni di campak ke muka macam kain buruk. Aku sekarang, pencuci muka sentiasa ada dalam beg. Senang. Lepas ni solat tanpa was was. Semoga Allah redha.

Rasa sampai sini je dulu. Point dia, nak sesuatu dari Allah, kena berbaik dengan Allah. Bergantung pada Allah 100%..kalau orang kata, bidan ni bagus, bidan ni hebat, jamu ni boleh bagi zuriat, jamu ni gitu gini. Istighfar dalam hati. Cakap pada diri, ya Allah aku hanya bergantung pada engkau bukan pada jamu dan bidan. Tapi dalam masa yang sama kita kena usaha juga. Berurut. Jumpa doktor. Jaga makan. Cuma kena sentiasa ingatkan diri, Allah yang berkuasa. Bila makan jamu, bila jumpa doktor bila jumpa bidan, betulkan dalam hati, ya Allah Engkau yang maha pemberi maha penyayang maha mengetahu maha berkuasa. Bukan mereka. Aku dok ulang ulang point sama. Supaya korang faham kebergantungan pada Allah itu penting. Ok gais. Semoga bermanfaat. Jangan sedih sedih. Perempuan selagi ada rahim, selagi itu ada chance untuk mengandung. Kalau takde rahim pon, kalau Allah nak bagi, kau siapa nak menafikan. Be positif, be kind, be sweet. Aku doakan korang yang tengah menunggu zuriat, diberikan rezeki zuriat. Aminnya rabbal.

Thanks

– Maria

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Finally pregnant

Peace be upon you admin. Thank you if you are willing to do it. Please be useful for readers. A Little Introduction, I'm Maria (Bukannnamansebenar) age in 3 Series. Married for almost 5 years. Alhamdulillah finally this year Allah gives sustenance to get pregnant. Friends and family are all excited. Many people ask for tips. Eat what, what are you doing. So I'm sharing here. Hopefully it will be useful.

The time before we get children, we are husband and wife among humans who are traumatized to go back to hometown. Look at other people's faces already know what they want to ask. Mother-in-law also reaches blue face to answer. Because most people ask this is the relatives beside the husband. But Mother-in-law, from us getting married until now, always backup me. Thank you, mom. Love you mom. My Mom? My mom is just relaxed. Haha. I want to say anything. More mental when a sibling who just got married, cousins get married and get a baby. After that there are people who are proud to have something wrong. Proud to have a baby early from me, it's all wrong because I'm scared of it. Early in the beginning, always became hindustan. Ran away crying in the room. But now it's strong. Just relax. Below is some of the things I do. I think this is what makes me get this sustenance.

1. Change your attitude.
I'm kind of not very good. Lazy, husband told me to make water pon I'm lazy, mouth off, like to curse and curse people, pray for the end of time. So I read the article and I heard the lecture. What kind of ustazah is God for sustenance if we are not true. Prayer is not. The religion of latitude pukang. Lazy. House like barge broke. I will be a baby I can't afford that kind of mother. Again, if we do not reach the stage of tahajjud prayer or cry if we pray to Allah, it means we will not arrive at the right stage. So quiet I change myself. It's hard to change. Hold this mouth from cursing, if people are not good at parking, nak parking until 70 hours, I hold it in my heart don't curse that person. If the shop worker is slow for work, I hold my mouth and heart don't say anything. I look like a girl gedik gedik in front of me laughing like a langsuir, I can't say anything. I see a hensem man with a woman not lawa, I don't say anything. I hold it. I hold it. I hold it. Haha. the struggle is real for people like me. Please don't slams. I'm not perfect but I like to make a perfect style. I am now more to think good. Say good people's article. Example if my colleague came to say " why do you know that's the day of mc day.. but look at fb status nice plaque go shopping " I answer " mm maybe that's what the doctor told him to make " kahkah. Or " the mail is just tunang but already broke up. Why do you think?" Looks like fishing for cursing. But I replied "takpe la not her mate" haha. Ofismate pon lazy to be lazy to curse if I'm fun to say that. Ok connect

2. Self Force help people
It's normal that I'm the most lazy to help people. I only do my own things. But I changed. If you see aunt, I'm afraid to be afraid to cross the road, I'll help you to lead it. See Uncle Uncle Konfius looking at the bread date, I help watch it. See kids who don't have money to Buy LRT tickets, I'll help you pay. Looks like the shop is full but there are some old caught, I quickly finish eating and give them a seat. Saw Aunt line up buying banana fritters, I gave her my turn. Please open the door, please raised other people's things. It's simple. But the soul feels calm.

3. Charity.
There's not much charity. Sometimes after taking money at the bank, see if there's Aunt Cleaner, I'm greeting and putting in money. Saw Uncle eating with the grandson, I paid. Difference with the school boy, I'll give you a second dollar. If you eat in the shop, there will be a balance of two three ringgit, I will make it. At the end of the month, I have more provisions, I make a meal. Or if there's a birthday blemishes, just celebrate with the smallest cake according to my ability at that time. Or give an example of the hijab that bought at muaz. Haha. I'm not rich. But want to try to make the orsng happy. Or if you see a blemishes that is getting thinner, don't eat every day, I'll treat him to eat once in a while. But not everyday, I'll be the one who doesn't eat. Every time I go to the mosque, it is compulsory to give the biggest in the purse. Forced the husband to do that too. Until that day we only had 50 but I gave it too. No intention in my heart may Allah give other provisions double. But intention, oh god, I am a sincere charity because of you and I am sure that you take care of us as the ants are confident in you will take care of them. I do that because there is a ustaz telling me, do whatever you have to be sincere and not expect a reply from Allah. An example like you help a woman with hope she is willing to be your girl. Confirmed that the woman is fed up. Think of it like that. Do you guys understand? Haha. If you don't understand, you'll be good at it.

4. Prayers
May God help us from our parents and our children, we are the one who is the one who is the one.
It means, "our Lord, grant us, our partners and our offspring as the cooler of our hearts, and make us a leader for the righteous". (QS. Al-Furqan: 74). Try to appreciate this prayer until crying. He feels different. Different. You guys try it. Every day I pray for this. After praying and if i just sit down, I'll read this prayer. Ustazah orders, every time you pray, you have to cry. Force yourself to cry. Then force your parents and siblings and whoever you meet, to pray for you. People's prayers to us are among the bleaching prayers. I feel it right. If it's wrong, forgive me. You pray to Allah, why do you want your child? Good intentions. Want to have a child because he wants to make him the khalifah of Allah. Religious Fighter. Those who are able to donate reward to us and offspring. Want a child because you want to build an Islamic family together. Want to tighten the relationship of husband and wife. Want a companion and spirit to be closer to Allah. The intention is to be right. If it comes to your heart, you want a child because you want to wear beautiful clothes, you want to compete with other people, keep istighfar. Those of you who are ttc like me have to set in the head. We are a special case, so we have to do it right.

5. Get close to religion.
You don't have to be ustazah.. but every day you have to force yourself to read and read the interpretation, force yourself to pray early, force yourself to pray and pray after praying. Force yourself and husband to pray together. Take care of your prayers so that our prayers are quality. I'm the type of makeup. If you want to pray, I'll just take it and don't wash my makeup first. There is no legal water there. My prayers? It's not valid anymore. I imagine this non-quality prayer was thrown into the face like a bad cloth. Me now, the face wash is always in the bag. Happy. After this praying without being. May Allah accept it.

I feel like I've been here before. The point is, if you want something from Allah, you must be kind to Allah. Depends on God 100 %.. If people say, this midwife is good, this midwife is great, this jamu can be given a child, this jamu is like this. Istighfar in the heart. Talk to yourself, oh god i only depend on you not on jamu and midwife. But at the same time we have to work too. Tandem. See the doctor. Take care of your food. Just have to remind yourself, God is powerful. When you eat jamu, when you see a doctor when you meet a midwife, correct it in your heart, oh god, you are the Almighty, the most merciful, the most powerful. Not them. I repeat the same point. So that you can understand what is important to Allah is important. Ok guys. Hopefully it will be useful. Don't be sad sad. Women as long as there is a womb, as long as there is a chance to get pregnant. If there is no uterus, if Allah wants to give it, who will deny it. Be positive, be kind, be sweet. I pray for those of you who are waiting for their children, given the sustenance of their children. Aminnya of the Lord.

Thanks

- Maria

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