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#รีวิว_Thai_reading_tree
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เรื่อง คณะนักวิชาการพัฒนาหนังสือ "อ่าน อาน อ๊าน"
ภาพ กฤษณะ กาญจนาภา, วชิรวรรณ ทับเสือ ❤
SOOK publishing
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หลังจากอ่านมาได้ 1 สัปดาห์
ขอชมจากใจจริง ว่าชุดนี้ ดีมาก
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ถ้าให้นิยาม 1 ประโยค เป็นตัวแทนของ
หนังสือทั้งชุด ต้องใช้คำว่า #อารมณ์ขัน
คณะผู้แต่ง ตีโจทย์แตกมาก
จะตีหัว(เด็ก)เข้าบ้าน
นิทานต้องสนุกก่อน
แต่งเรื่องได้ดี เชื่อมโยงกันทั้งชุด
สร้างความผูกพันธ์ระหว่างเด็กกับตัวละครในเรื่อง
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และชุดนี้ ที่โดดเด่นมาก
ที่ต้องยกความดีความชอบให้ไปเต็มๆ
คือภาพประกอบ
เนื่องจากเนื้อหา มีคำบรรยายน้อย
จึงใช้ภาพเล่าเรื่อง ฉากหลัง เหตุการณ์ สีหน้า ท่าทาง
ดีมาก...ไม่รู้จะชมอย่างไรให้เท่าที่ใจชื่นชม
ที่ตลก ก็ตลกมาก
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ถ้าให้รีวิวทีละเล่ม
คงเขียนหนังสือได้สัก 1 เล่ม(เว่อร์🤣)
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หนังสือมี 5 level
ขอเลือกตัวแทนของแต่ละ level
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Level 1: ของหาย
เด็ก 3-4 ขวบ ไม่ต้องสะกดคำเป็นก็อ่านนิทานได้
ภาพเล่าเรื่อง ให้เค้าคิดตาม ใช้คำบรรยายของตัวเองในใจ คาดเดาเหตุการณ์ มีอารมณ์ร่วมกับตัวละคร ที่ทำของรักหาย
Level 1+: ใช้คำโดด ง่ายๆ ซ้ำๆ ฝึกทั้งสะกด และหลักการของ sight word เรื่อง สะอึก กับ มะละกอ เป็นเรื่องที่หมอกับลูกสาวชอบ เพราะตลก
Level 2: คำที่พบใน level1+ นำมาใช้อ่านใน level นี้ เด็กสะกดคำเพิ่มเติมคำใหม่ๆ (น่าจะภูมิใจน่าดู)
หมอชอบเรื่อง ปาด กับ เละเทะ
เรื่องปาด ชอบเพราะใกล้ตัว คือ กลัวปาดมากตั้งแต่เด็ก
และปาดมันกระโดดไกลมากจริงๆ เวลากระโดด กรี๊ด วงแตก ในเรื่องก็เป็นความโกลาหล ในบ้าน ที่เกิดจากเจ้าปาดน้อย แต่ก็วาดได้น่ารัก ตาใส เหลียดไม่ลง
เรื่อง เละเทะ ขอนิยามว่า คิดได้ไง...เละเทะ สมชื่อเรื่อง
Level 3: ประโยคยาวขึ้น อารมณ์ของตัวละคร ก็โตขึ้น
ขอเลือกเรื่อง หยอดกระปุก...อ่านแล้วอิ่มใจ
Level 4: ขอยก รางวัล #หมอแพมชวนอ่านaward ให้กับเรื่อง หูอื้อ กับ เมืองผี
สนุกไม่สนุก เด็กที่บ้านเรียกร้องให้อ่านซ้ำคืนละ 2-3 รอบ...ตลกมากกกกกกก
ชอบมาก ไม่ spoil เพราะอยากให้อ่านเอง
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สรุป ชอบมาก
ไม่ได้เป็นผู้เกี่ยวข้อง อะไร ใดๆ
แต่ไม่รู้ทำไม ภูมิใจมาก
นิทานไทย มีคนเล่าเรื่อง เก่งๆ
มีคนวาดภาพ สวย ภาพมีชีวิต เยอะ
ขาดแต่กลไกตลาดที่ทำให้ ทีมงาน
ได้สรรสร้างผลงานดีๆ
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ไม่ใช่แค่ผลดีกับเด็กที่จะได้อ่านหนังสือนิทานดีๆ
แต่เป็นผลดี....ที่จะให้เด็กๆรู้ว่า
การวาดรูปสวย เล่าเรื่องเก่ง เป็นคุณสมบัติล้ำค่า
ที่ต่อไป เค้าจะเอาสิ่งที่รักมาเลี้ยงตัวเองได้
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ไม่ใช่หน้าม้า...ซื้อมาเหมือนกัน
แต่เชียร์ สั่งซื้อเลยค่ะ
บ้านที่มีเด็กอายุไม่ถึงขวบ จะคุ้มสุด
บ้านไหนเด็กโต หมอเข้าใจว่า เลือกเป็นเรื่องๆตาม level
ลูกเราได่นะคะ...แยกเล่ม เล่มละ 30 บาท (ถูกใจหาย)
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สุดท้ายขอบคุณทีมจัดทำอีกครั้ง
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หมอแพม
ปล.สั่งซื้อออนไลน์ที่ @SOOKpublishing นะคะ
#รีวิว_Thai_reading_tree
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Book Development Faculty of Education ′′ Reading Saddle ′′
Krishna Kanchanaburi image, Wachirawat Thap Sueang ❤
SOOK publishing
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After 1 weeks of reading
Sincerely admitted that this dress is very good.
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If you define 1 sentences, you will be a representative.
A whole set of books requires the word #humor
The author faculty has a lot of crack.
I will hit my head (kid) in the house.
The story must be fun first.
Good story. Connected the whole set.
Build a bond between kids and character in story.
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And this dress is very iconic
I have to give good deed and full of preference.
Is an illustration.
Because the content is less subtitled
So I use the photo to tell the scene after the event. Face expression.
Very good... I don't know how to watch as I appreciate it.
The funny thing is also very funny
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If you give a review, one book at a time.
I must have written 1 books (woo 🤣)
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The book has 5 levels.
Let's choose a representative of each level.
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Level 1: Lost
A 3-4 year old doesn't have to spell to read a story.
The picture tells the story. He thinks about his own caption. In my heart, I predict the emotional event with the character who lost my love.
Level 1 +: Use simple jumpsuit repeatedly. Practice both the spell and the principle of sight word word hiccup and papaya. It's a doctor and daughter. It's like
Level 2: Word found in level1+ is used to read this level. Kids spell more words. New words. (Be proud)
Doctors like a slit and a mess.
I like it because it's close to me. I'm scared to slit since I was
And it's a very long jump. When you jump, it's anarchy in the house that you can't draw. Cute, clear, clear, and unintelligible.
The messed up story. Let me define you. How can you think... Messed up with the title.
Level 3: Longer sentences. Character's mood grows.
I want to choose about the drop of the jar... Read it and feel satisfied.
Level 4: A prize for #Doctor Pam asks you to read the award to the earbuds and ghost town.
Fun, not fun. Kids at home call to read again 2-3 times a night... Very funny.
I like it very much. I don't spoil it because I want you
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In summary, I like it a lot
Not related to anything.
I don't know why. So proud.
Thai tales have good stories.
There are plenty of life drawing beautiful pictures.
There are only market mechanisms that make the team work.
I have to create good works.
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It's not just a good result for kids to read a good storybook.
But it's good.... to let the kids know
Beautiful drawing, good story telling, precious qualities.
The next place, I will take love to raise myself.
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Not bangs... I bought them either.
But cheers, order now.
A home with kids under the age of is worth it.
Which house is the big boy? The doctor understands that he chooses to be a level
Our kids are here... separate book for 30 baht (feel frightened)
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Lastly, thank you team made it again.
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Dr. Pam
P.S. Order online at @SOOKpublishingTranslated

LOẠT THÀNH NGỮ ANH-VIỆT THƯỜNG DÙNG

Ác giả, ác báo = As the call, so the echo
Ai làm, nấy chịu = Who breaks, pays.
Ăn cháo đái bát/ăn cháo đá bát. = Bite the hand that feeds you.
Ăn miếng trả miếng. = A taste of your own Medicine.
Ăn mày mà đòi ăn xôi gấc = beggars can't be choosers
Ăn quả nhớ kẻ trồng cây; Uống nước nhớ nguồn. = Let every man praise the bridge that carries him over
Bần cùng sinh đạo tặc. = Necessity knows no laws.
Bất quá tam. = Third time is the charm.
Biết người biết ta, trăm trận trăm thắng = He who sees through life and death will meet with most success.
Bụng làm dạ chịu.= Make one's bed and lie in it.
Bắt cá hai tay. = two-time somebody. To run with the hare and hold with the hound.
Bần cư náo thị vô nhân vấn. Phú tại sơn lâm hữu viễn thân = An empty purse frightens away friends; In times of prosperity friends are plentiful.
Cá mè một lứa. = Dogs of the same street bark alike.
Cái khó ló cái khôn. = Necessity is the mother of invention.
Càng đông càng vui. = The more, the merrier.
Cây ngay không sợ chết đứng; Vàng thật không sợ lữa. = A clear conscience laughs at false accusation.
Cân nhắc lợi hại. = Weigh the pros and cons.
Cha nào con nấy. = Like father like son
Cháy túi = Lose one's shirt
Cháy nhà lòi mặt chuột. = Rats desert a sinking ship.
Chết vinh hơn sống nhục. = Better a glorious death than a shameful life.
Chết vinh hơn sống quỳ. = Better die standing than live kneeling.
Chí lớn gặp nhau. = Great minds think alike.
Chín người, mười ý. = So many men, so many minds.
Chim thấy ná. = A burnt child dreads the fire.
Chơi dao có ngày đứt tay. = He who plays with fire gets burnt.
Chó sủa là chó không cắn. = great barkers are no biters.
Chứng nào tật đó, ngựa quen đường cũ. = Old habits die hard.
Có chí thì nên. = Where there is a will, there is a way.
Có tật giật mình. = A guilty conscience never feels secure.
Có qua có lại mới toại lòng nhau. = You scratch my back and I'll scratch yours.
Con sâu làm rầu nồi canh. = Rotten apple spoils the barrel.
Con hoang. = Born on the other side of the blanket.
Cưa sừng làm nghé. = mutton dressed as lamb.
Cùng lắm. = Worse comes to worst. Đánh ghen. = To confront one's romantic rival.
Cùi không sợ lở. = A beggar can never be bankrupt.
Cười người hôm trước, hôm sau người cười. = He laughs best who laughs last.
Cướp công cách mạng. = To steal someone's thunder.
Dân mù tôn chột làm vua. = In the land of the blind, the one-eyed man is king.
Dục tốc bất đạt. = Haste makes waste.
Dễ như trở bàn tay. = Be like taking candy from a baby
Dùng cán bút làm đòn xoay chế độ (Sóng Hồng). = The pen is mightier than the sword.
Đàn ông xây nhà, đàn bà xây tổ ấm = Men make houses, women make homes.
Đắt như tôm tươi = Sell like hot cakes.
Đứng núi này trông núi nọ. = The grass is always greener on the other side of the fence.
Đổ thêm dầu vào lửa. = Add fuel to the fire. Pour oil on the flames
Đèn nhà ai nấy tỏ. = Let every man mind his own business.
Đi với Phật mặc áo cà sa, đi với ma mặc áo giấy. = He who goes with wolves learns to howl.
Được đằng chân lân đằng đầu. = Give him an inch and he'll take a yard.
Được cái nọ mất cái kia. = You cannot eat your cake and have it.
Đỏ bạc đen tình. = Lucky at cards unlucky in love.
Đường nào cũng dẫn đến La mã. = All roads lead to Rome.
Đừng vạch áo cho người ta xem lưng. = Do not wash your dirty linen in public.
Đừng dạy đĩ vén váy. = Don't teach fish swim.
Được voi đòi tiên. = If you give a mouse a cookie he's going to ask for a glass of milk.
Gieo gió gặt bão. Gieo nhân nào thì gặt quả nấy = You reap what you sow
Giết gà bằng dao mổ trâu. = Use a sledgehammer to crack a nut.
Giết người bịt miêng. = Dead men tell no tales.
Giảng tuồng. = Elvis has left the building.
Già dịch. = Dirty old man
Giọt máu đào hơn ao nước lã. = Blood is thicker than water.
Hên xui. = Luck of the draw.
Họa vô đơn chí, (phước bất trùng lai). = Misfortunes never come alone. It never rains but it pours.
Hết xí quách. = out of gas
Hoạ trung hữu phúc (trong cái rủi có cái may) = Every dark cloud has a silver lining.
Kén cá chọn canh = To pick and choose.
Không thầy đố mày làm nên = No guide, no realization
Không ai giàu ba họ, (không ai khó ba đời) = From shirtsleeves to shirtsleeves in three generations.
Không có lửa sao có khói. = where there's smoke, there's fire; There's no fire without smoke.
Khôn ba năm dại một giờ. = No man is wise at all time.
Lấy độc trị độc. = Fight fire with fire.
Lấy thúng úp voi = To put a quart into a pint pot
Lưới trời lồng lộng nhưng khó thoát. = The mills of God grind slowly, yet they grind exceeding small.
Mạt cưa mướp đắng, vỏ quít dày móng tay nhọn, kẻ cắp bà già gặp nhau= Diamond cuts diamond.
Mắt to hơn bụng. = His eyes are bigger that his stomach.
Mặt nhân từ mà ruột hiểm sâu. = A fair face may hide a foul heart.
Mèo khen mèo dài đuôi. = Every bird thinks his own nest best; Every cook praises his own broth.
Mèo mù vớ cá rán. = Fortune favors the fools.
Một mũi tên trúng hai đích. Một đá chọi hai chim; Môt công hai chuyện. = Kill two birds with one stone.
Một điều nhịn bằng chín điều lành. = If you are patient in one moment of anger, you will avoid 100 days of sorrow.
Mới có ván đã bán thuyền.. = Dont count your chickens before they hatch
Muốn ăn thì lăn vào bếp. = He that would eat the fruit must climb the tree.
Mưu sự tai nhân, thành sự tai thiên. = Man proposes, God disposes.
Năm thì mười họa. = Once in a blue moon.
Ngưu tầm ngưu mã tầm mã. = Birds of a feather flock together.
Nhàn cư vi bất thiện. = An idle mind is the devil's workshop; Idle hands are the devil's tools.
Nhân nào, quả nấy. = What goes around comes around.
Nhân duyên tiền định. = Marriages are made in heaven.
Nhân vô thập toàn. = To err is human
Nhắc Tào Tháo thì Tào Tháo đến. = Speak of devil and he will appear.
Nhập gia tùy tục. = When in Rome, do as the Romans do.
Nói có sách mách có chứng = To speak by the book
Nồi nào úp vung nấy. = Every Jack has his Jill.
Nỗi da gà. = Have goose pimples.
Nước đổ lá môn; Nước đổ đầu vịt. = Water off a duck's back; Fallen on deaf ears.
Nước đục thả câu. = To fish in troubled waters
Nụ cười bằng mười thang thuốc bổ. = laughter is the best medicine.
Phòng bệnh hơn chữa bệnh. = An ounce of prevention is worth a pound of cure; Prevention is better than cure.
Rượu ngon phải có bạn hiền.= Old friends and old wine are best.
Sinh nghề tử nghiệp. = He who lives by the sword dies by the sword
Suy bụng ta ra bụng người = A wool seller knows a wool buyer
Sư nói sư phải, vãi nói vãi hay. = There are two sides to every story
Tại anh tại ả, tại cả đôi bên = It takes two to do something
Tai vách mạch rừng. = Hedges have eyes and walls have ears.
Tay làm hàm nhai. = Living hand to mouth.
Tắc đèn nhà ngói cũng như nhà tranh. = All cats are grey in the dark.
Thánh nhân đãi kẻ khù khờ. = God sends fortune to fools.
Thả tép bắt tôm. = A sprat to catch a mackerel.
Thả con săn sắt, bắt con cá rô. = To throw out a sprat to catch a mackere.
Thao thao bất tuyệt = A flood of words
Thắc lưng buộc bụng. = Tighten your belt
Thắng làm vua, thua làm giặc = Make or mar. Sink or swim. Neek or nothing
Thế thiên hành đạo. = Take the law into one's own hands
Thùng rổng kêu to. = Empty Vessels Make The Most Noise.
Thương cho roi cho vọt, nghét cho ngọt cho bùi. = Spare the rod, spoil the child; He who withholds his rod hates his son, but he who loves him disciplines him diligently
Thương em mấy núi cũng trèo mấy sông cũng lội mấy đèo cũng qua. = There ain't no mountain high enough, ain't no valley low enough, ain't no river wide enough to keep me from you.
Thừa sống thiếu chết (Ngàn cân treo sợi tóc) = More death than alive
Tiệc vui nào mà không tàn. = All good things come to an end.
Tiền trao cháo múc. = if you touch pot you must touch penny.
Tiền nào của nấy. = Pay peanut get monkey.
Tình địch. = Romantic rival.
Tốt gỗ hơn tốt nước sơn = A good name is a rich heritage. A good fame is better than a good face.
Trèo cao té đau. = The higher you climb, the harder you fall. Pride will have a fall
Trứng mà đòi khôn hơn vịt. = Teach one's grandmother to suck eggs
Tránh vỏ dưa, gặp vỏ dừa. = Out of the frying pan and into the fire.
Trống đánh xuôi kèn thổi ngược. = The left hand doesn't know what the right hand is doing.
Tự lực cánh sinh. = Every tub must stand on its own bottom.
Uống như hủ chìm. = Drink like a fish.
Việc hôm nay chớ để ngày mai = Never put off till tomorrow what you can do today.
Vỏ quýt dày có móng tay nhọn = Diamond cut diamond. One nail drives out another.
Vòng vo tam quốc. = To beat around the bush.
Vô độc bất trượng phu. = The end justifies the means.
Vạn sự khở đầu nan. = The first step is the hardest.
Vụng múa chê đất lệch; Vụng hát chê đình tranh. = A bad workman quarrels with his tools.
Xa mặt cách lòng. = Out of sight out of mind.

Oh wow! I just realized this guy sounds so much like me!! Long long post! But good read though! (:

The phone rang.

She was sobbing badly on the other end of the line.

“I’m going over,” I told her and hung up before she could protest.

1am. It was going to be a long night ahead..

She was still crying when she opened the door. She looked so broken, so vulnerable. I didn’t have to know what was wrong, I just held her in my arms. She cried even more.

“He broke up with me,” she finally said.

I just kept quiet as she let it all out.. questions, tears, anger, hurt.

“Why does love have to hurt so much?”

“No, love.. doesn’t hurt,” I said gently.

“So says the guy who’s been single forever? What would you know about love,” she jabbed.

“So says the guy who’s been your friend though Mr now-ex-#4,” I grinned. “Love doesn’t hurt you.. it’s the person that doesn’t know how to love or appreciate love that hurts you. But love never hurts,”.

“You won’t understand, Matt,” she sighed, “you’ve never been in love…”

“That’s not entirely true, you know..”

“Wait what- so who’s this girl I’ve never heard abou-“

“What did you love about #4 anyway?” I interjected.

“I don’t know… he is just perfect. And I love him so much,”

“But you don’t know what it is that you love about him?”

“It’s just.. the feeling when I’m with him. It always felt right with him. He made me feel loved and I loved him too,”

“That’s it? Just a feeling?”

“Well.. yea. What were you expecting me to say?”

“.. something more specific, maybe? I mean, if you thought he’s so ‘perfect’, why’d he still chea- erm, why’d he leave you?”

“Because I’m just not good enough for him? I don’t know..” she paused. “What is love to you then…”

“Hmm.. to me, being together or in love with someone should be more that just a feeling.. it should also be about mutual understanding, acceptance, respect, commitment and trust.”

“That’s what all couples would hope and want their relationship to be like, Matt. But expectations and reality don’t always go together..”

“Or maybe.. someone’s just not trying?”

“Well if you think love is so simple.. why haven’t you been with anyone all these years?”

“I never said love was simple.. but I guess the reason why I’ve never been with anyone yet is because.. I already know exactly what I want,”

“You have.. a checklist?”

“Sorta. It’s not the typical kinda ‘I’d like a girl with long hair, nice smile, etc’ superficial checklist though,”

“Oh. What kind of list is it then?”

“It’s like.. a concept of love. Of what it is about a girl that will make me fall completely in love with her. A concept that has more than three specific reasons that would answer any question as to why I love her.”

“You have a concept of love?” she laughed. “Love isn’t a theory, Matt.. you can’t just classify love by a concept or definition, you simply feel it with your heart..”

“But you see.. the reason why I think there are so many broken hearts, is because people merely jump into a relationship when their heart feels a certain something towards someone. But I don’t think that’s love, that’s merely an infatuation. Personally, I believe there are more than three reasons and aspects that actually determines whether we really are truly in love beyond the superficial ‘I don’t know why I love him/her.. I just do’ reason,”

“That makes sense. So what exactly is this.. ‘concept’ of yours about?” she asked, genuine curiosity replacing her initial skepticism.

“I call it the 4+1 theory. The aspects that will determine if it’s true love or just a fickle infatuation. It’s based on this idea that whenever we like someone, if we really go deeper into what is it that draws us to him or her, we’d be able to find that one specific reason. That’s not love though. That’s merely an attraction or infatuation. But when more than three of the aspects from this theory are present, you’ll be pretty sure that it’s more than just a feeling. For me personally, this determines if I’ll ever fall in love with a girl…”

Mind. Heart. Body. Soul.

The mind aspect, to put it simply, is her intellect. But I don’t mean the academic smarts.. it’s the way she thinks, processes and analyzes things way beyond a shallow self centeredness. It’s the way she puts across her thoughts, not for winning an argument’s sake, but to really try to understand or even sensibly debate opposing views that might leave anyone reflecting on her words or challenge me to think differently. It’s the way she carries herself off with an aura of sophistication and enigmatic charm and no matter how much I might think I already know her or have her figured out, she’ll still surprise me with something unexpected. Good surprise. I like intellect. Personally, it takes a little more to intrigue me and stimulate my senses. If I can connect with someone and talk endlessly about the concept of nothing, then, only then, will we be able to talk about everything else.. and I think that’s incredibly alluring,”

“Ooh.. so my best friend’s sapiosexual too,” she teased. “But what about her likes and dislikes or like her personality.. does that go under the mind aspect too?”

“Well, that’s where the heart aspect comes in. The heart represents who she is by what she values or cares about. The things she likes, the things she dislikes. What really matters to her, as well as her insecurities and fears..”

She bit her lower lip - thinking. “But what if him knowing about my past and all my insecurities scares him or drives him away? Or what if he ever uses all of these against me if someday things go bad between us?”

“Erm.. you do realize that it doesn’t really matter now because whether or not he ever knew, he already chose to leave you right? But.. if he still or ever tries to hurt you in any way, then he is a fucking bastard and I will punch his face,”. I really meant it.

“I don’t think he even cares about me anymore,” she sighed, “maybe he never really did.. we were so.. different. I don’t know why I never actually realize it before,”

“Maybe because then, you were too ‘blinded by love’ to see, or you chose to conveniently ignore the differences. Honestly though, I think it’s critical for two people to understand each other’s heart and learn to accommodate each other’s differences rather than simply turning a blind eye or deaf ear ‘because I love him and that’s all that matters’. Because if two people are too different in the way they think, behave or live.. I reckon it will become a huge problem when the infatuation bubble bursts.”

“I don’t really understand..” she said.

“Let me just ask you this.. does he know how passionate you are towards the arts and music?"

“Well, no.. not really. He’s more the sports kind of guy and doesn’t like theatre and stuff so I didn’t want him to get bored if I talked to him about things he isn’t interested in..”

“Then i’m guessing he probably also doesn’t care or know the little things about you. Like how you’re afraid of the dark and why you’re actually scared of darkness.. how family and relationships are really important to you.. that ice cream is your happy pill. You know, I’m even going to bet that he doesn’t know you go to bed every night, clutching your phone just hoping and waiting for him to text you goodnight..”

She started to tear again, but I continued..

“You see, it’s not a matter of whether it bores him or not.. it’s a matter of whether he bothers or not. I mean, if he doesn’t even know these things about you, then he really doesn’t know you at all. How then can he say he loves you?”

“But I really loved him,” she murmured softly to herself .

“I know you did. I know you still do and it’s hurting you like shit. But you need to know that for any kind of relationship to work.. two people need to give and take. Sadly, with him, it seems like you’re the one who was always giving. If he actually really loved you back as much, he’d make a greater effort to close the gap and bridge the differences between you two. He’d want to hear what you have to say, he would actually consider your opinions, your needs and your feelings. He’ll not just tell you or text you that he loves you.. he’ll show it by the things he will do or be willing to do no matter how inconvenient or silly it might be, just because.. he knows it’ll make you happier or better. To me, when it comes to a relationship, the heart aspect isn’t just a feeling or who you/he or she is anymore. It becomes two hearts beating as one. Two people wanting to understand each other.. sharing the good, the bad and possibly a future together; actually bothering and supporting each other’s feelings, values, dreams, thoughts, emotions,”

She stayed silent for a long while before she looked up, holding my gaze.. there was this unspoken tension building before she finally spoke again.

“But.. what if something that’s important to me, is not something the guy might feel same way about?"

“Then I’ll try-” I caught myself. “I mean, if I were him. I’d try. I’d make the effort.. because it’s important to you and you’re important to me,”

She remained silent again. She wasn’t crying anymore but this time, the prolonged silence was starting to grow even more deafening.

“Matt,” she finally spoke - softly, “do you believe in love at first sight?”

“No.” I said flatly.

“Oh..” she sighed. “You know what you said about mind and heart.. it’s actually starting to sink in and I’m beginning to realize that maybe these two aspects weren’t exactly a big part of my relationship with him,”

“So what made you fall in love with him then?”

“Well.. don’t laugh, but I’ve always thought that with him, it was love at first sight. I mean, there was just this spark between us from the very first time we met,”

“Cos he was hot?” I scoffed.

“No.. don’t be an idiot,” she tried to hide her smile but failed. I rolled my eyes. “Okay fine, yea maybe that. But it wasn’t the only reason!”

I raised an eyebrow.

“He was really nice too! And he was always sweet to me,“ she began her defense case. “He always made me feel happy, secure and loved without even having to try, you know?” I just continued staring at her waiting for her to go on. “Oh never mind, you’d never understand..”

“Actually.. I do. And I think I now understand what it was that made you fall in love with him.

The body aspect.

The body aspect is about physical attraction, intimacy and presence.

I don’t believe in love at first sight. I don’t believe you can just “instantly know” you’re in love or that someone’s THE one just by “first sight”. No offense, but I think the whole love at first sight concept is bullshit that only exists in movies and fairy tales. In reality, it isn’t love. That very first attraction.. is probably lust. Lust at first sight”.

“What nonsense! It’s not like I was lusting over him from the very first time I laid eyes on him! Maybe it’s the case for guys.. I mean, sex is always on a guy’s mind whenever he meets a girl right? But it’s different for girls, Matt..” she protested.

“Okay. You know what.. since you brought up the age-old guys and sex debate, I’ll tell you this secret to clarify something about guys for the first and last time.. probably 99% of guys are naturally sexual. If you ever meet any guy who tells you he isn’t sexual at all, it’s not that he’s gay – no, gays are even more horny .. he’s likely to be a liar and you should be more wary of him. BUT! Here’s the thing.. even though guys are sexual by nature, it isn’t always the only or most important thing to a guy,”

“Really?” now she raised her eyebrow with that annoying smirk on her face.

“Oh come on, you girls know how it is, plus you aren’t exactly saint-like innocent either.. sometimes you see a hot guy and you start fantasizing or making statements like ‘omg have my babies’..”

“That…” she started blushing.

“That.. is exactly my point. It’s the same with guys. We might talk and think about sex a lot more openly than girls but it isn’t always the only thing on our mind. When I said it’s lust at first sight.. I didn’t literally mean you want the guy naked and in bed. What I meant is the momentary attraction or desire– he might be hot, he might be charming, he might have smiled at you that made you feel a certain way.. but that’s not love. That’s really just a superficial physical attraction. Saying “I’m in love” right there and then just completely takes the special meaning out of the word ‘love’. If you ask me, I personally think the process of loving or falling in love with someone involves discovering the person and then perhaps developing feelings. It could happen quickly or over a longer period of time, but not at first sight,”

“Hmm.. that does make sense,” she paused and then her lips curled up forming that annoying smirk again. “Oh wow, this is the first time you and I are talking about sex huh..”.

“You never asked..”

“Tell me then.. what is sex to you?”

“Sex.. to me, is merely a physical act. I am not part of the whole “sex is sacred/taboo” camp but then, I don’t take sides with the whole bed hopping culture either,”

“I can’t believe you just said that sex is merely a physical act..” she began in a disappointed tone.

“But sex really is just a physical act if it’s without emotions or feelings. And that is why I distinguish between sex and making love, the same way I clearly differentiate ‘loving’ and ‘being in love’ with someone,”

“Oh.” this time, she smiled. She understood.

“Don’t get me wrong.. I think physical intimacy is very important in a relationship but for me, the one physical aspect that matters the most.. is the physical presence. That, is also what I reckon made you fall in love with him.

“Okay this, I really want to know…” she said.

“The physical presence is simply being there. You want him to be with you. You want to be there for him. Because just being there with or for each other makes your day, or you as a person, a little better. You may act or behave a little different when you’re with him, but in a good way – in a way that you actually feel completely comfortable, safe and you. Perhaps even without you knowing, you smile more and laugh harder. You feel real, genuine joy. And even on days when the smile can’t happen, you know you don’t have to pretend to be okay or be self conscious in front of him; because its perfectly okay to be the way you are and feel when you’re with him. He cares about you and you feel loved when you’re with him. Sometimes, there are no need for words or explanations.. just his presence, him being there for you, holding you.. makes you feel better or believe that it’s going to be okay again. Because you’re not just holding on to someone for attention or sympathy.. you actually feel and believe that you’re holding on to a part of or the rest of your life..”

Which leads to the fourth aspect – soul.

The soul aspect to me, is the deepest form and the final affirmation that should answer any remaining doubt or questions as to whether we’ve truly fallen in love with a person.

It’s when you start noticing but still appreciate all the other little things, even the flaws - especially the flaws. It’s when you truly know a person stripped down of all their walls, exposed to their soul and yet still accept and love him or her. It’s a level of understanding and acceptance that goes beyond the “honeymoon everything is perfect” period.

It’s when you finally realize this one person is someone you can always and want to tell everything to, and you want to ask and know everything of him or her as well. It’s when you actually want to share your life and trust your secrets with this person; and you can. This someone is the first person you think of when you’re happy, sad or when something significant happens. This same person is someone you can call at 1am in the morning and they’d drop everything to make time for you, staying by you till the sun rises or you’re better again - as you would for him or her as well. This person cares and will listen. Will really listen, giving you their undivided attention and genuine love; not necessarily every time but any time you need him or her. This one person makes your problem their problem and they go through it together with you just so you don’t have to go through the pain and tears alone,”

It was at this moment, for the very first time, she looked at me in a different way but said nothing.

“You see, the soul aspect..” I continued, “is when you start to see and want to share the rest of your life with this one other. And not in a clingy “I can’t live without you” way, but in a way that I can still live my life without you as I have before I met you, but now that you’ve come to exist in my life, I see the possibility of a life with you and now I actually want to make decisions and live a life, continuing to create more moments and memories together with you”.

“Well.. so.. have you met this one person yet? I mean, I’m sure it’s almost impossible to find that ‘perfect’ girl who fulfills all of your four aspects of love right?” she mumbled. I could barely hear her. She wasn’t even looking at me anymore.

“No, it is not impossible and I don’t think its asking for too much. You see the thing about these four aspects is, we often and will find one or two aspects in many different people. And that alone may be enough to make us attracted to them or develop a crush on them. But really, that is not love at all. If we like a person because “he’s cute” or “the way she thinks”, that’s just us liking the body and/or mind aspect of a person. The reality is, we are always going to meet many people who possess these different aspects of mind, heart, body or soul. But on a rare occasion when you do meet someone who possess all these four aspects.. you’ll almost definitely know that he or she is not one of many but may just be the one. So personally, I won’t settle for anything less unless she possess more than three qualities. You know people write the symbol of love as < 3 (less than three), I actually think love should be more than three.. I define it as 4+1. “

“So what’s plus one?” she asked, still not looking at me.

“Plus one…” I trailed off – unconsciously.

“Matt?” she placed her hand on top of mine, finally looking me in eye again.

“Plus one.. is something only the one who's meant to be will ever know and hold the answer to”.

end.

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Some time Feb, I experimented writing in a different way.

I wrote a story.. 4+1.

It's a story that took me more than a month to 'finish' writing. It's a story that's personally very close to my heart - then and will always be.

Truth be told, it was a story written as a confession and answer.

To you who've followed and related to 4+1, I thank you for reading and allowing me to share this intimate chapter with you.

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Love,
Matthew Zachary Liu

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