關於 how can someone love me if i don't love myself ，我們在網路上蒐集到這些相關的討論、資訊與評價

早晨被一個夢打醒⋯
這個夢很有意思 代表我內心的渴求 狀態⋯有一陣子沒有這樣子有點複雜紛亂又清楚的夢⋯。

才知道今天是1月11日～1/11⋯❤️

在我生命中有兩個日子，刻劃很深的記號⋯11/1 和1/11～。我從來沒有覺得數字有什麼特別，但這兩個數字卻讓我永遠記得，紀念甚至感恩！❤️🌹🥰🥰

那是一段刻骨銘心很難明白的艱困過程，多年前1/11那個日子讓我跨了一個大門，有一點像是生孩子的過程，痛到你幾乎不想生，但是忍過那個最痛的階段，就是一個新生命的開始⋯，真的是如此啊⋯若沒有勇敢的跨過去往前走，我就看不到現在一片綠意盎然，充滿生氣的我的人生風景！所有的細節美麗和精彩啊⋯！

我曾經有一個經驗，很可愛很真實！轉換了我面對傷害的態度～！
特別傷你的人是你愛的人,特別難面對⋯。
有一次我跟主禱告，和著眼淚和氣憤⋯，在禱告中，我看見一個影像，就像電影一樣～那個傷我的人對著我扔石頭，但那石頭沒打著我，於是我撿起那塊石頭很生氣的回丟過去，扔過去時，覺得很沒力道手很輕⋯一看，我扔過去的，居然是一個麵包！我突然就噗哧的笑了⋯怎麼那麼沒力呀！連傷人都傷不到！🥰🥰這時上帝對我說，如果別人用黑暗用憎恨來對你，難道你回他的是一樣的嗎？你的心中有的是什麼呢？如果你有了我，你會知道要回應什麼⋯⋯

真的，我即刻從生氣到笑自己，這麼容易被激怒，因為我心中充滿的⋯真的不是這些，我可以給予的美麗和美好太多了⋯。

在黑暗中，唯有你自己成為光，才可以找出一條路⋯不要再等候其他的⋯。
你自己就可以成為光，你自己就是那個美麗！那個力量！那個智慧！那個勇敢！⋯只是你沒有找到那個鑰匙⋯甚至是你不想找～

最近有一個很深的體悟，不管你有多愛一個人，或者有人多愛你，不管你有多少人陪在你旁邊，你最終都是得孤獨的面對自己～靈魂的那一個你～如果你自己不能好好欣賞愛你自己，明白你自己是美麗的，你就沒有辦法自在和滿足～。

對於那些傷害與破碎，還有那些不明白為何傷害你的人～放了吧！
一句傷害的話都不用說，因為你更多的能量是看自己愛自己成為⋯美麗的那一個你～！使人看見你就開心就喜樂！好像吃到麵包那樣滿足！🥰🥰❤️🌹

在2021/1/11的今天～～這曾經令我痛哭欲絕的這一天，我向我的主獻上感恩～
謝謝祢總是不離不棄，在我最艱困的時候，用祢最溫柔有力的胸膛擁抱我！用祢最溫柔最有智慧的言語餵飽我，用祢最溫柔明亮的光帶領我，用祢最深最廣的愛情包裹我⋯。 使我可以在靈魂的海洋裡 大山裡面自由奔放⋯I love you,My Lord....🌷


(馬太福音 5:9) 使人和睦的人有福了！因為他們必稱為　神的兒子。
(Matthew 5:9) Blessed are the peacemakers: for they shall be called the children of God.

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Photographer:Su 蘇婭

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I Waked up by a dream in the morning...
This dream is very interesting. It represents the desire ,my situation in my heart....It hasn't been a somewhat complicated and clear dream like this for a while.
I just know that today is January 11 day～1/11...❤️
There are two days in my life, with deep marks...11/1 and 1/11~. I have never felt that the numbers are special, but these two numbers make me always remember, commemorate and even be grateful! ❤️🌹
It was a difficult process that was unforgettable and hard to understand. ..The day 1/11 many years ago ...made me step through a door. It was a little bit like the process of having a child. The pain was so painful that you almost didn’t want to give birth to ... But to endure the most painful stage is the beginning of a new life... , it’s true! If I didn’t step forward bravely, I would not see the greenery and fullness now. ...My Life...Landscape! All the details are beautiful and wonderful...!
I once had an experience, very cute and real! Changed my attitude in the face of injury~!
I once had an experience, very cute and real! Changed my attitude in the face of injury~!
The person who hurt you in particular is the one you love.
Once I prayed to the Lord, with tears and anger... During the prayer, I saw an image, just like a movie. The person who hurt me threw a stone at me, but the stone did not hit me, so I picked it up. I picked up the stone and threw it back angrily. When I threw it over, I felt very weak and light in my hand... At first glance, what I threw over was actually a piece of bread! Suddenly I laughed...how could I be so weak! Can't even hurt people! At this time, God said to me, if someone treat you in hatred in darkness way ,would it be the same for you to treat him? What is in your heart? If you had me, you would know what to respond...
Really, I instantly went from being angry to laughing at myself, I am so easily irritated, because my heart is filled with...it really is not this, I can give too much beautiful things and kindness...
In the dark, you can only find a way out by becoming the light yourself...don't wait for others...
You can become light yourself, and you yourself are the beauty! That power! That wisdom! That brave! ...But you didn't find the key...even you don't want to find it~
Recently, I have a deep realization that no matter how much you love someone or how many people love you, no matter how many people being with you, you will eventually have to face yourself alone~ the soul of you~ If you can’t appreciate and love yourself well, and understand that you are beautiful, you can’t be comfortable and satisfied~.
For those who hurt and broken, and those who don’t understand why they hurt you~ let it go!
There is no need to say a hurtful sentence, because you should take more energy to see yourself loving yourself and becoming...the beautiful you~! Make people happy when they see you! As satisfied as if they had bread! ❤️🌹

Today on January 11, 2021~~This is the day that once made me cry, I give my thanks to my Lord~
Thank you for always staying true to me. In my most difficult time, hug me with your most tender and powerful chest! Feed me with your tenderest and wisest words, lead me with your softest and brightest light, and wrap me with your deepest and broadest love... So that I can be free in the ocean of the soul...I love you, My Lord...🌷

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Courtesy of 56 years of constant practice. I'm getting better and better at maintaining a healthy relationship with myself. Another year older, another year wiser and I keep advancing in the #SelfLove department. Happy 56 to me ! ( It's still Dec 9 here in the States, guess I'm gonna celebrate again tmrw, off to bed now, nite nite ! )
Thank you all for your continuous love and support for letting me be me !!

The biggest gift you can offer me is to commit to advocating for Self-care and Self-advocacy.

#SelfCare - a journey that has no end. It's a conscious act that one takes to promote their own physical, mental and emotional health. ( #Exercise improves your mood and gives you an improved sense of well-being that can help prevent and treat mental illnesses like depression ). I love staying in shape because it makes me feel good and somewhat Superior, lol...

#SelfAdvocacy - the ability to speak up for yourself and the things that are important to you. Don't be afraid to ask for what you need and want and tell people about your thoughts and feelings. Not only you know your rights and responsibilities, you speak up for your rights, and you make choices and decisions that affect your life.

Someone asked me what's the biggest challenge during the process of reinventing myself. #SelfDoubt - there'll always be people that are unsupportive of your goals. Naysayers or critical people who actively say things to discourage you. There are also those who think you're stupid for missing out on opportunities. Truth is, in order to continue to be the advocate for natural beauty routine, health and wellbeing, I did turn down multiple commercial skincare product endorsement jobs, simply because they contradicted my beliefs. Ok, I'm stupid 🤪

My Story

People often ask me how on earth could a 56 yrs old woman look so young? What product do you use?

My answer has always been the same since I was 28. Self-care, healthy lifestyle and I use my own recipe to create my own essential oil products.

It all began in 1992, my then boyfriend's mother, Karen, who led a very organic lifestyle, introduced me to the aromatherapy world. I went from reading a book about aromatherapy to seriously studying it, and then working on creating my own recipes. Creating my own perfect essential oil blend took me a bit of trial and error but it’s a task that was a lot of fun. And of course, the biggest satisfaction came from seeing how my skin transformed over time.

It’s been a long time dream to have my own natural product line. However, in order to prove that my products work, I would need time to prove it. I knew that if I could let myself grow old without aging much, that would be the most solid proof that speaks louder than anything else. I was determined to show the world that leading a healthy lifestyle and using only organic products can truly slow down aging. We can all look amazing and age beautifully and gracefully without any help from cosmetic surgeries or regular visits to your dermatologists or esties.

Good things take time, after countless tests on real humans, a little improvement at a time, slowly refining all my recipes. Here I am, 28 years later...I'm ready to present you with my homemade products. The first in line is "For your eyes only", 100% natural without any preservatives, suitable for all skin types, organically and carefully crafted, and prepared by me, just me, with my own two hands, with love!!

There’s a saying that goes “ If you need to convince anyone else, be sure you’re convinced… “. Yes, I am, very much so…

For those who believe in me, I've prepared a small batch of my babies, all signed and numbered, each in their own little luggage just for you. Guess what? They've already arrived Hong Kong. They're only available through one channel, one person actually, my darling hairdresser, Gary.
Please WhatsApp Gary only if you're interested in my product. +852 98850960

" For your eyes only " is an overnight treatment that helps visibly smooth the appearance of fine lines and wrinkles, firm the look of skin and actively hydrates while you sleep. It's lightweight and so gentle that it melts right on your skin as soon as you apply. It's a 12 weeks' supply if you use it nightly. But if you're desperate like some of my clients, and you wanna see improvement sooner, the bottle will still last you a good 6 weeks 😉

#noFilter #noBeautyApp

【天青色等煙雨，而我在等你】(English writing below)

我看著客人眼淚
滴滴答答的打在桌面上
筆記本
濕了
本子上的字
糊了

她的心酸
猶如洪泉遇到崩裂的堤壩
一波一浪的破牆而出

一個被愛情辜負的女子
看了真是心疼

我不由自覺的
想到了自己

你懂我的
像我這樣剛烈的女子
爲了愛情
我絕不退縮
祇是一個勇字
又豈能成事呢

童年
過得心驚膽顫
家裡常吵得
雞犬不寧

爸爸沒想要
把我生下
媽媽常說
要把我趕出去

我很努力讀書
我很努力做個乖孩子
我覺得我做得很好
人小小本事很大
但這些終究無法
讓我在美滿的家庭長大

多少個夜晚裡
我被媽媽打得
想奪門而出
永不再見
可是想到誰來照顧她
我又忍下來

我很恨
為何我命運不如人

第一次談戀愛時
我是多麼多麼的雀躍
內心裡的煙花
不斷地爆開
我終於等到了
不再是
沒人要的孩子了

我終於
值得有人愛了

初戀的絢麗
卻也如七彩美麗的煙花
一聲巨響後
就消失在漆黑的夜裡

他常常在我面前
提到他如何深愛著
他中學時的校花
她是如此的美好

有一次
這校花來我們的學校
他得知後
破課室的門而出
沒見到她
他哭了一整個星期

心中的不安
讓我常常與他吵架
三年零八個月裡
我不是一個好女友
服滿兵役後
他喜歡上大學迎新會
的一位混血兒

後來
我和一位校友打了幾次桌球
某夜
他在ICQ向我索吻
對他的印象
就一落千丈了
（你以為老娘在賤賣嗎？）
不久一位朋友告訴我
他約會的對象
不只我一個

我有一位
很好很好的朋友
我在新加坡時
他常陪我
深夜打桌球到清晨
聊佛法聊人生
一起上佛學班
一起學國標舞
從未有一個人
如此瞭解我的心
如此照顧著我

但無所不談的當兒
他也不斷告訴
這麼多年來
他如何愛念著
一個女孩
對她始終無法忘懷

我又輸給
活在記憶中的人了

我這一份單戀
長達兩年
很磨人很磨人很磨人
差一點走不出來

第二次談戀愛
他常在我面前提起
一個他追了半年追不到的女孩
他說
有一天一定要去問她
為什麼不選擇他

在家裡的毒打
並沒有隨著我成人
而停止

後來拜師學藝
卻因爲品德不良
被師父一句
「你不是我要找的人。」
斷然吃了閉門羹

那天我哭得痛徹心扉
覺得自己
好像是
個沒人要的孩子

方文山因爲
八百年前
宋徽宗皇帝御批的這句
「雨過天青雲破處」
而在周傑倫《青花瓷》裡
寫了『天青色等煙雨，而我在等你』

他說
愛情里最無力的無奈
就是「等待」
天青色得等待
不知何時會降的雨
雨停
積雲散去
朗朗晴空中
天青色才能顯現
如同我
只能被动而安静的
等待着
不知何时才会出现的妳。

慢慢的
我開始認為
我這輩子等不到了
月老應該沒幫我
綁上紅線

學佛多年後
忽然恍然大悟
一個道理
没有东西是必须拥有的
沒有它
也不代表自己的不足

愛情
是一個填不滿的慾望
所以愛情劇長紅

在2015年2月21日年初三，根本上師蓮生活佛在台灣中天綜合電視台的訪談中說：https://youtu.be/EPDxwSt6a5I （時間12:08）

「師尊本身的愛是這樣的。我既然愛她，就是要她幸福，不是要佔有她，這種愛不是佔有，其實愛不是佔有。如果愛是佔有的話，那就是屬於慾望。如果愛不是佔有，我是祝福她，雖然我愛她，她不愛我，她愛別人，我就祝福她。如果愛別人會比較幸福，我就祝福她。這種愛就不是佔有的愛。如果是佔有的愛，一定會產生痛苦。」

原來我真正在等的
是自己
自己的智慧開了
心變闊達時
才不會讓他人決定
自己幾時可以幸福
可以幸福多久
命運在我手中
怎麼走本來就是我說了算

我輕輕的拿起桌上的紙巾，遞給女客人。她一把鼻涕，一把眼淚的向我道謝。

借了師父慣用的笑話，我柔聲細語的說：「別哭，新加坡缺水，要哭要到蓄水池哭，這樣我們可以少看馬來西亞的臉色做人。」

她破涕而笑。

我再說：「我看了妳的八字，現在又看到妳真人，勸你跟我講話老實一點，要不然我幫不到妳。妳明明一直做人家的小三，還敢跟我哭沒有男人要和妳結婚？妳不也偷偷拿了他不少錢嗎？我看妳明明就是一張愛錢的臉。」

奉勸各位大俠，在我面前，若要用眼淚爲武器，請三思，因爲虛偽的，我必定拆你面具。

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I looked at the teardrops of my client, pitter patter onto the table top. My client's notebook got wet. The words got muddled.

All the pains in her heart were like the angry river crushing through a broken dam, tearing down the walls as the tears flowed.

To see a lady being let down by love was indeed heart-breaking.

I couldn't help but thought of myself.

You know me. An unyielding character like mine will not shrink like a coward in the name of love. Alas, there are things in life that can't be accomplished solely with courage.

My childhood was filled with a lot of fear. There were often quarrels at home.

My dad didn't want me to be born. My mum often said she wanted to chase me out of the house.

I studied very hard. I did my utmost to be an obedient kid, and I thought I did very well as young child but I was already very capable. However, all these were not enough for me to grow up in a complete family.

So many nights, I got beaten up so badly by my mum that I wanted to just break out of the door and never to see her again. But the mere thought of nobody looking after her pulled me back.

I hated so much. Why wasn't my destiny comparable to other people?

When I first fell in love, I was so elated. The fireworks in my heart exploded non-stop. I finally found someone. I was no longer that child which nobody wanted. I was finally worthy of someone's love.

The splendour of first love, however, was as temporal as the rainbow-coloured fireworks. After a loud explosion, it vanished into the darkness of night.

He would often tell me in my face, how much he pined for and loved his secondary school crush, apparently the prettiest and most perfect girl in school.

Once, this campus belle came to our school. When he got wind of the news, he dashed out of the classroom. Failing to see her, he cried for one whole week.

My insecurity caused me to quarrel with him often. In those 3 years and 8 months, I wasn't a great girlfriend. After his NS, he got together with a girl of mixed blood at his university's Orientation camp.

I played pool with a uni mate a few times. One night over ICQ, he teased me for a kiss. My impression of him dropped like hot cakes. Did I look like I was lelong-ing myself? Later, a girl pal told me that he was dating several girls at the same time.

I had a very good friend. Whenever I was in Singapore, he would accompany me to play pool till wee hours. We talked about Dharma, life, and we attended Buddhism and ballroom dancing classes together. I had never met a person who understood me and took care of me so well.

But among our endless conversations of everything and anything, he always told me how he still loved a girl from his school. He couldn't forget her.

Again, I lost to someone who lived in the memory of the guy I liked.

This one-sided love of mine burned for two years. It was very, very, very excruciating. I almost didn't make it out alive.

In my second relationship, the boyfriend would always tell me about a pretty girl whom he pursued for half a year, but failed to win her heart. He told me firmly that if he had the chance, he wanted to ask her why she did not choose him.

The abusive beating at home did not stop even after I grew up.

Later on, when I wanted to become Shifu's disciple, he turned me down flat because he didn't think I had good morals and values. He was blunt, "You are not the person I am looking for."

That night, I cried painfully hard. Suddenly, I felt like I was the kid from my childhood whom nobody wanted.

800 years ago, Emperor Huizong of Song Dynasty wrote in an imperial decree "雨過天青雲破處". It was this that inspired Vincent Fang (方文山) to write the lyrics 『天青色等煙雨，而我在等你』in Jay Chou's song 青花瓷 (Blue and white porcelain).

Vincent Fang said, the most powerless kind of helplessness in love was waiting.

The sky green colour had to wait for the rain, which it had no idea when it would arrive. After the rain stopped, the thick clouds dissipated, in the clear skies, the sky green colour would then be able to appear. This was just like how he could only passively and quietly wait, for his lady whom he had no idea when she would appear.

Gradually, I started thinking that in this lifetime, I would not be able to wait for that person to appear. Perhaps Yue Lao (the elderly celestial under the moon) did not tie the red string on me.

After many years of learning the Dharma, one day, I suddenly came to the realisation that nothing is a must to own.

Secular love is a black hole of desires. That is why romantic shows are evergreen.

On 21 February 2015, the 3rd day of the Lunar New Year, my Root Guru Living Buddha Lian-Sheng spoke in an interview with the Taiwan CTI Television Inc.: https://youtu.be/EPDxwSt6a5I （timestamp 12:08）

"My personal take on love is this. Since I love her, I will want her to be blissful, and not to possess her. Such love isn't possession. Actually love isn't possession. If love is possession, that belongs to desire. If love isn't desire, I will wish her well. Although I love her, she doesn't love me, but loves another person, so I will give her my best wishes. If loving another person brings her more happiness, I will wish her well. Such love isn't possessive love. If it is possessive love, there will surely be pain."

Then I realised, the one that I had been waiting all along for is myself. Waiting for my wisdom to develop, waiting for my heart to be more open, so that I would not place my happiness in the hands of another person, and let the person decide for me when I should be happy, for how long I can stay happy...

My destiny is in my hands. How it pans out is up to me to say.

I gently picked up a serviette from the table and passed it to my lady client. In a mush of mucus and tears, she thanked me.

Borrowing an old joke from Shifu, I gently told her, "Don't cry. Singapore lacks water. If you want to cry, you should cry at a nearby reservoir. This way, we don't have to see the colours of Malaysia in order to get more water."

She broke into a smile among her tears.

I continued, "After looking at your Bazi, and now that I have seen you in person, I advise you to be more honest with me, or else I will not be able to help you. You have all along been a mistress to other men, and you dare to come crying to me that no man wanted to marry you? Didn't you also stole some money from them? The way I see you, you obviously have a money grubber face."

My advice to all swordsmen: If you wish to use your tears as a weapon in front of me, think thrice. Because if you are a hypocrite, I will definitely rip your mask apart.

I had this long-distance relationship 2 years ago and it was one of my happiest and also the most depressing time of my life. He was there for me the whole time and the only way we could connect was a simple call every single night before bed. I would tell him about my day, all the little things that made me happy or sad. It was usually sad. I would cry every night without knowing why and he would just be there on the phone, listening.

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I wanted to write a song about that. To be that one call for someone.

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Because I know how those late-night calls made me feel accompanied and safe like it isn't so bad to be this way.

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Loving someone that doesn't love themselves is hard. Loving that someone from afar is even harder. So thank you.

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I think I relate this song to my mum the most. She's in Thailand right and I haven't seen her for about 8 months. I feel like I never express how much I miss her when we're on the phone because IDK, I just couldn't say it out loud but I do miss her a lot. I guess this song also resembles a little part of her reaching out to me and a part of me saying I fine mum don’t worry.

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thank you daniel this amazing arrangement
thank you lester for writing this beautiful song with me
thank you enoch for making this feels complete


here are the lyrics:')



Spacing out, I hold myself tight
How should I send my warmth to you,
Through the night

I know you've tried,
Oh so tired, I know
Not everything's in control in life
So take your time

Just breathe (it won't cost you much)
Breathe (and youʼll be ready to)
Figure out someday,
Even if you don't itʼs okay
Just breathe (donʼt hold it in)
Breathe (don't worry we still can)
Figure out someday,
Even if we don't itʼs okay

It'll never be enough
Wonʼt ever love yourself
But thereʼs always one beside you
Although he may be far
So far, so far, so far

Just breathe (it won't cost you much)
Breathe (and youʼll be ready to)
Figure out someday,
Even if you don't its okay
Just breathe (and let it out)
Breathe (don't worry we still can)
Figure out someday,
Even if you don't itʼs okay

*beautiful outro outta spacccee*

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詞：李杰明 W.M.L
曲：李杰明 W.M.L
編制：陶山 Skot Suyama
導演：Michael Li

我到底是誰
Who am I?

我到底是誰？是饒舌歌手？
Who am I? A rapper?
我到底是誰？是流行歌手？
Who am I ? A singer?
我到底是誰？是否要遮醜？
Who am I ? Do I need to hide my flaws?
我到底是誰？是否要逃走？
Who am I ? Do I need to run away ?
我到底是誰？社交的障礙
Who am I ? Anti social?
我到底是誰？情感的阻礙
Who am I ? Don’t know how to love
我到底是誰？心裡的無奈
Who am I ? Feeling defeated in my heart
我到底是誰？藝人的腐敗
Who am I ? Rotten Artist?

突然放慢速度心不可以急
Slowing down myself I cannot rush now
突然退後一步才發現混濁的是感情
Take a step back and realize it's emotions that have clouded me
是懷疑？是質疑？
Is it Doubt ? Are they questions ?
沒安全感的分離
Feeling insecure from anxiety ?
是分歧？是珍惜？
Am I different ? Keeping a distance ?
跟著河水走最後卻一身泥
Thought I'm going with the flow but got mud all over myself

我到底是誰？衝突情感在輪迴
Who am I ? Conflicting feelings stuck in a loop
我到底是誰？快樂夾雜著後悔
Who am I ? Happiness mixed with regrets
我到底是誰？內疚在扯我後腿
Who am I ? Guilt is dragging me back
我到底是誰？是控制欲的傀儡
Who am I ? I'm the puppet of my controlling desires

我到底是誰 我從來沒有正確答案
Who am I, I never have the correct answer
所以我到底是誰 我情緒依舊這麼亂
So who am I, why am I such an emotional mess?
複雜的情感無法往前看
Feelings blocking me from moving forward
我悲觀不能給人看
My dark emotions can't show to people
我樂觀卻不聽使喚
But my bright emotions can't be controlled
我情緒像一堆子彈
My emotions are like bullets
我依然沒辦法止戰
I still can't shut down the war in my head
我對著鏡子罵混蛋
I curse the guy in the mirror
我跪著祈禱給神看
I'm praying to show god
我心跳逐漸的緩慢
My heart beats getting slower
我心態逐漸的懶散
My attitude becomes passive
我控制慾使我渙散
My controlling desire makes me blurry
我控制慾被我斬斷
I cut off my controlling desire
我快樂不再是期盼
I stop hoping for happiness

控制慾持續地影響我的生活
Controlling desires continue to affect my life
感覺一切都是自己與自己的爭奪
Feel like everything is fighting with myself
嘗試露出笑容 可我突然眉頭深鎖
Try to smile but my face muscles stop me
就讓控制慾出來吧 我不想再斟酌
Just let my controlling desire go crazy, I don't want to tip toe anymore

原來我有控制慾 是因為不敢信任
I have controlling desires because I'm afraid to trust
充滿低自信的心態 我也開始記恨
Such low confidence, I start to hate
我必須要訂正 我以前那些定論
I need to correct my incorrect definition of everything
其實我一點都不可憐 只是莫名氣憤
I'm not sad, I'm just angry for no reason
所以我想到底 我的道理能否叫醒
I think this theory can wake me up
我自己別再如此的暴力
Tell myself to stop being aggressive
選擇相信一個人 選擇別詆毀一個人
Try to trust someone instead of making them a bad guy
別讓文字使我沈淪 但不確定我能不能忍
Don't twist my words, but I'm not sure if I can do it

信任妳 所以給了妳最初的情緒
Giving you my first emotion out of trust
感激妳對我的接納 讓我能放下疑慮
Thank you for accepting them, letting my doubt go away
腦海裡變得寧靜 心中感受到平靜
My mind quiets down and I can feel the peace at last
我發現感激與悲憤的起伏 似乎是相同的頻率
I realize gratefulness and sorrow, they seem to be on the same wave in my heart
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Assistant: Rayson
Hair & Makeup : Renée Chen 陳嘉唯

這是我寫的『你愛她』原始的模樣:D This is the original version of my mandarin song 你愛她You Love Her! 這個版本的吉他教學我也拍出來給大家囉！
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[Dena張粹方] - [你愛她 You Love Her]
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▶ more videos/熱門影片連結
City Cafe 自創曲: https://youtu.be/CuxcaFwqRQI
How I learned English: https://youtu.be/ZgHqeOrW4_I

Guitar Tutorial for this song
吉他教學
https://youtu.be/7aMavz_xYTk

你愛她中文版MV
https://youtu.be/sTHOhxPv6dk

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▶ extra content/補充內容

Special thanks to Youtube Space Taiwan! 謝謝Youtube台灣提供場地幫助拍攝!! 真的非常非常謝謝! 知道自己的寶貝有了好好發揮的地方與呈現方式真的好感動...我要哭了拉!!

Shouldn't Be Missing
lyrics & music/詞曲: Dena

Lyrics/歌詞:

I can almost taste it 我就快要感受到
that warm and yellow 那溫煦的黃光
that burning vanilla scent 那剛飄出的香草味道
but there’s been a crack at the edge 但也感受到了角落的裂縫
oh dear have I tried to save it 我只能盡力挽回
but I let it leak through the glass 卻還是無能為力

Didn’t I tell you 我不是跟你說過
didn’t I warn you 不是也警告過你
there’s no looking back now 已經回不去了

You shouldn’t be 不能再想念
Missing someone that you 那個你好不容易放下的人
finally let go of
even though you’ve been through a 儘管發現自己心底話時
heartbreak and your heart aches just to 是有多麽痛
listen to the voice in your head
oh you can’t give up now 你不可以在掙扎了
no matter how hard it gets 不論再怎麼難過
oh no you just shouldn’t be missing someone 就是不可以去想念
when you know it’s for the best 因為你明白什麼才是對彼此最好的...

remember the day we decided 還記得當初我們說好
to explore the city 要一起探索這個城市
on a cold and windy weekend 在冷冽的週末
the leaves were turning red 葉子慢慢地枯黃
and you held me tightly 這時你緊緊地抱住我
and gently squeezed my hand 輕輕地捏捏我的手

Didn’t I tell you 我不是跟你說過
didn’t I warn you 不是也警告過你
there’s no looking back now 已經回不去了

You shouldn’t be 不能再想念
Missing someone that you 那個你好不容易放下的人
finally let go of
even though you’ve been through a 儘管發現自己心底話時
heartbreak and your heart aches just to 是有多麽痛
listen to the voice in your head
oh you can’t give up now 你不可以在掙扎了
no matter how hard it gets 不論再怎麼難過
oh no you just shouldn’t be missing someone 就是不可以去想念
when you know it’s for the best 因為你明白什麼才是對彼此最好的...

the candles are lit and they’re burning 蠟燭熱烈的燃燒著
oh I can’t tell if they’re shaking 但是我看不出來它是否在顫抖著
please blow it out for me 可以幫我吹熄嗎？
before I drown myself in an 在我窒息於我們回憶的大海之前
ocean of memories
please someone just save me 誰能救救我
cause I’m dying to release 因為我等不及想要解開時間的枷鎖
time
to breathe 我等不及想要浮出海面呼吸

You shouldn’t be 不能再想念
Missing someone that you 那個你好不容易放下的人
finally let go of
even though you’ve been through a
儘管發現自己心底話時
heartbreak 是有多麽痛
just to listen to the voice in your head
oh no
just don't give up now 你不可以在掙扎了
cus you know it’s for the best 因為你其實明白什麼才是對彼此最好的...


Music and Lyrics/詞曲: Dena
Guitar/吉他: Dena
Recording/錄音: Dena
Mixing/混音: Leon Lee 李冠彰
Director/導演: 阿豪導演
Editing/剪接: 宋大

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Facebook Fan Page/粉絲專頁
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Old Youtube/舊頻道
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Soundcloud
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新朋友嗎? 嗨我是Dena! 高中開始追求我的音樂之路，畢業於輔大護理系! 畢業後終於有勇氣全程灌注去美國念音樂! 這個頻道是分享著我最真實的故事! 歡迎加入我的大家庭一起陪伴彼此成長! 頻道中提供著Dena留學分享、音樂作品、彩妝、生活實錄vlog、生活小招等等! 影片也都會伴隨著簡單的英語教學哦:D
Welcome to my channel! I'm a singer/songwriter based in Taiwan! This channel is pretty much about my current life, my experiences studying at Berklee College of Music in the states, things that i love(music and makeup!), and tips i find super useful! AND you will be expecting a lot of some REALLY chatty videos... (you are warned)!

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