【電腦遊戲的傀儡】(English writing below)
Puppet of Computer Games
那天下午，我花了三個小時在一個客人的家看風水，一方面也是要多點時間向他們說佛法，因為我為他們的家運擔憂。
我在那裡的三個小時，客人的青少年兒子也幾乎把自己關在房間裡三個小時玩電動。
客人說，他整個假期都是這樣過的。
為何客人會允許孩子這麼做，真是讓我百思莫解。
這裡溫馨提醒大家：
當一個房間的某種風水和某種孩子的八字配在一起時，會造成孩子要玩電動的欲望無法制止。
這就是為什麼了解孩子的八字，只不過是孩子的改運的一部份。居家風水在打造孩子的未來和發揮她他自身的潛能，有著舉足輕重的影響，因為它能夠彌補或惡化一個孩子八字上的不足。
還有⋯⋯
在佛教五戒中，排名第一的戒就是不殺生。
這戒若犯，其罪報是最嚴重的。
玩殺生的電腦遊戲，猶如犯了殺生戒。
當遊戲玩家動了那個心念要殺時，他的身和意已造了殺業。
佛法也告訴我們過度沈迷電腦遊戲，而沒在真實世界裡做出任何貢獻，都會投胎做螞蟻🐜🐜🐜。
因為他們並沒有珍惜做人的福份，去做有用的事情。所以，輪迴做勤勞的螞蟻是讓他們更有貢獻，彌補之前荒廢的人生。
越小隻的動物，業障是越重的，因此越難重得人身，聽聞佛法，而免受被人宰殺或死於非命的命運。
有些人說，玩電動也能有大事業。
拜託，不要自欺欺人，那也要看你孩子有沒有這個命。不是所有的人都能從電動賺錢，沒燒錢就已經偷笑了。
同樣的理由，就算我們讀萬卷書，也不見得就一定有好的文筆，更別說些什麼國際暢銷小說。電動打得再厲害，和能夠以電動謀生，需要的是兩種不一樣的技能、心態和運勢。
就好像那些網路行銷的大亨，我曾花一些時間去研究他們的八字、面相和個人歷史。除了他們自身的努力和耐力以外，他們的成功始終離不開他們八字的伏藏。
愛一個孩子，不代表你就應該讓他揮霍自己的福份。
要不然，他長大後，福份就會所剩無幾。這也是為什麼有的孩子童年很美滿，成人後卻很辛苦。
我奉勸各位爸爸媽媽們：
你當然有權可以以你的金錢來溺愛你的孩子。
今時今日的父母，都會有些許害怕孩子會叛逆，會疏遠他們，或更糟糕的就是，從他們的臥房窗口來個「真人跳傘」，讓父母深深譴責自己。
但是，盲目地用物質來展示我們對孩子的愛，無法為他們買來一個更好的人生前程。
好命，始終得從父母去教導孩子如何在幼年時就去播善的種子。如此一來，在孩子內心的系統裡，就會很自自然然地去做，如同我們每天早上自動會刷牙一樣。
問題是⋯⋯⋯當父母拒絕學習如何改善自己的人生時，無論什麼藉口，那孩子也有樣學樣，便自然無法跳出這家族的命運DNA。
因為從來沒有人告訴過這孩子，原來命是可以這樣改過來的。
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The other afternoon, I spent 3 hours at a client’s home for a Feng Shui audit and also to speak the Dharma to the family, for I worried over their declining family luck.
For the 3 hours I was there, the teenage son spent almost all of it in his room, with the door closed, playing computer games.
I was told that was how he spent almost the entire school holidays.
It was strange to me that his parents would allow him to be like that.
Here’s a gentle reminder from me.
When a bedroom of a certain Feng Shui is matched with a child of a certain Bazi, the urge to play computer games will be irrepressible.
This is why understanding a child’s Bazi is just one part of the Destiny equation. The home Feng Shui plays a pivotal role in shaping the child’s potential and future too, for it can make up/worsen for what the child lacks in his/her Bazi.
Another thing is...
In the 5 Buddhist precepts, the number one precept is Abstain from Killing 不殺生.
This carries the heaviest sin.
Playing computer games that involves a lot of killing is akin to committing the sins of killing.
When the person who plays the game gets emotionally involved in the killing, his body and mind will have committed killing.
The Dharma also states that excessive playing of computer games with no contribution in the real world, will lead to one to being reincarnated as ants 🐜🐜🐜.
Reason being, they did not do useful things when they had the good fortune to be humans. So as ants, they are forced to be more diligent (and sociable).
The smaller an animal is, the heavier their negative karma is, hence the harder it is to be born again as humans to hear the Dharma and not get killed as animals.
Some people say that hey, playing computer games can also lead to big careers.
I say, don’t kid yourself. That only applies to some Bazi, not ALL Bazi.
It’s the same reason why not all of us can write very well even if we read a lot, much less write an international bestseller. Playing a computer game well and making a business to profit from it call for two different skillsets, mind capacities and naturally, different sets of luck.
Like those big guys in the internet marketing arena, I once spent some time to study their Bazi, facial features and personal history. Apart from their personal diligence and perseverance, it still boils down to the makings of their Bazi that lead to their success.
Loving a child doesn’t mean allowing him to squander his good fortune.
Otherwise, his good fortune may have run thin by the time he grows up. And that is one reason why some young adults have a sweet childhood but a rocky adulthood.
My advice to all parents: Sure, you can smother your child with everything that your money can afford.
In this age and time, we are all somewhat afraid that our child will rebel against us, distant themselves from us or worse, do a free-fall skydive from their bedroom window, leaving the parents in deep remorse.
But at the end of the day, plain loving our children with materialism will not buy them a better Destiny.
The seeds to a better fortune always lie in teaching your children how to sow the seeds when they are young, so that in their O.S., they will do it by default. Just like how we would automatically brush our teeth every morning.
The problem is...when the parents refuse to learn how to better their lives, with whatever excuse, then of course, by the theory of monkey see monkey do, it is rare that the child will be able to jump out of the Destiny DNA.
Because nobody teaches the child how it is possible.
