關於 parent questions to ask teachers ，我們在網路上蒐集到這些相關的討論、資訊與評價

It's hard to believe that my firstborn will be sitting for her PSLE papers in a couple of months' time. In fact, her oral exams begin this week. Yup, time flies!

I wish I had more one-on-one time to spend on revision with her but given how the baby keeps me busy all the time, it is really tough. Besides, some of the P6 concepts, especially Science, are too hard for me to comprehend or teach already. That means the girl has learnt to become more independent in her studies, which might not be a bad thing, right?

While we are still on the tuition-free route, we take the opportunity to learn whenever we can and for now, e-learning platforms which enable us to learn while staying home is something we would advocate. We have heard good reviews about Geniebook, an online suite of personalised learning innovations powered by Artificial Intelligence, and were excited to try out their 2-weeks GenieClass trial.

The girl attended some of the live online classes - GenieClass, including English, Math and Science, and enjoyed them thoroughly. Besides helping to recap some of the topics she has learnt in school, she also participated in quizzes and class chats which she found to be interesting and helpful.

We got to see and have a feel of how the teachers conducted these online classes and they were generally engaging and enthusiastic, which made the lessons fun and worth looking forward to.

In addition to GenieClass, Geniebook subscribers will soon get to use GenieAsk, which is a real-time teacher chat and a convenient way for students to ask questions they may have from school. Then there is the product they’re most famous for, their GenieSmart. These are AI personalised worksheets which draw from a library of over 150,000 questions aligned to MOE’s syllabus to identify academic strengths and weaknesses. And what I love as a parent most, you’ll have access to real-time progress reports of how your child is doing!

While PSLE might be a major milestone for her, instead of being stressed out by exams, I earnestly hope she will always find joy in learning. We've got this, dear Angel!

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Part 3 and the last part to talking and teaching your little one about “Stranger Danger”. ❤️

Good morning,

We've talked the last few days about the terrifying statistics and what you can do as a parent, how to protect your little online, but what about your little? How do you teach your toddler protective behaviors?

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1. BE HONEST
The first step to Respectful Parenting and keeping our littles safe is just to be honest with them. Why can’t they play hide and seek in public? Why can’t they follow someone without asking mama? Why can’t they let anyone touch their private parts?

Be mindful of their age and how much they can understand, listen to your mama gut and speak from the heart. “Please check with mama before you eat anything anyone gives you because I have to make sure it is safe."

Why does mama have to keep you safe? Because you are so precious to me and I don't want to lose you.

Does your little know and understand your why? Or are we just saying no, stop, cannot, don’t! Think about the times in your life you’ve really understand the purpose and the vision and how it has affected the outcome. It’s the same with our littles too, if they know the why, they are a lot more willing to follow through and do it.

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2. BE CONSISTENT
Do your rules change depending on the day? Ultimately, we want our littles to be so familiar with their routine that they do it without thinking.

Hold mama’s hands when we cross the street. Wait for mama to say yes before going in an elevator. You don’t have to hug anyone you don’t want to - no means no.

Making sure that we are consistent with our boundaries is key to helping our toddlers build their own consistent healthy boundaries.

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3. ALLOW QUESTIONS
Little ones are always so curious because that’s how they learn about how the world works. Do you have a culture in your family where they are safe to ask questions?

Again not only does us answering honestly and them getting to explore and ask questions help them understand the why and get behind it better, it also fosters an open relationship.

Open, honest, intimate relationships with your little is one of the best ways to curb sexual abuse because they always feel safe enough to tell you anything, ask you anything, get excited about anything that they don’t feel the need to keep secrets.

If you lay the framework and foundation when they are young, it will help so much during their vulnerable years as well as again, making them much more less attractive for someone to groom.

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4.EMPOWER
Lastly and most importantly as always, empower your little.

What can you do if someone hurts you and you don’t like it? Give them space to answer and come out with solutions. It will amaze you how much they know. You might have to prompt sometimes but with consistent space and trust, they will come out with amazing ideas.

What this really does is builds up their confidence, gives them the tools to be proactive, puts them in charge of their bodies and decisions. If there’s one thing I’m especially grateful for, it’s this.

This is what’s going to protect her when mama is not there.
Her knowing the danger signs, understanding why they are dangerous, feeling empowered and knowledgeable about what to do or to come out with a solution whether she's 2 years old or 20 years old.

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Please let me know if you have any other questions and I really hope that this series was helpful for you and your little.

If you’re struggling with your toddler and would like a step-by-step and more in-depth walk through, I have a Toddler Wars workshop next week that covers all the hot topics like biting, hitting, sharing, car seats, terrible twos, whining, sibling rivalry, jealousy, dealing with in-laws and many more.

To find out more details or to register, go to https://kidxy.com/rk

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Racheal Kwacz is a Child and Family Development Specialist, mama tribe advocate and writer. As creator of the ‘Racheal Method’, she combines her 20+ years experience working with children in the USA and in Asia with the foundations of ‘Respectful Parenting’, leading parents and teachers around the world in raising kind, confident, compassionate, resilient little ones.
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Following up on a question on our fb/ig LIVE last week on Sibling Rivalry, here's a previous Q&A on the same topic using the same Respectful Parenting principles.

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QUESTION
My daughter is very jealous of her brother. He is 6m old and she is 2 years old. When we are not looking, she will hit him or purposely disturb him. We tell her nicely not to do it but she doesn't listen. Sometimes we also scold her but she just ignore us and will do it again. Can you help?

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ANSWER:
Oh mama, first of all, I want you to know that you aren't alone. Sibling rivalry is such a major hot topic in fact we have a whole section in my upcoming Toddler Wars workshop that covers it!

Secondly, I want you to know that this is very normal behavior and your child is not a monster. She is just trying to make sense of her world the best way she knows how to so the heart behind Respectful Parenting is trying to understand where she is coming from then responding as a parent to help her navigate through it.

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1. MAMA TIME
The first thing I would do before even addressing the problem with her is to really think about how much intentional one-on-one time you might be spending with your daughter. In my workshops, we call this "mama time" and it is key in keeping your little one grounded.

The aim of mama time is to just be present for her - let her lead, make each other laugh, play play play, love on each other, fill her love tank. The reason why that is step one is because unless she feels a connection with mama, or has that intimacy with you, the rest of the answers won't work because that ultimately is what every child craves and seeks.

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2. MAKE SPACE
A lot of times as parents we want to fix the problem. That's what we do, we are fixers. The problem sometimes with always fixing is that there is no space to just breathe or feel or allow all these messy ugly feelings to happen. If we don't teach our littles that it's okay to have these feelings and empower them to deal with it, what will they do later on when they grow up and have to face all the same emotions by themselves?

Talk to her about what is going on. No lectures, no shaming, no blaming. What is going on? How can I help you? You are feeling very frustrated/angry/hurt/jealous. Help them label those feelings so they also understand what is happening.

Instead of saying "You are the older sister, you have to love him, you really love him right?" try asking and acknowledging instead what she might be feeling. Jealousy? Left out? Bored? Hangry? Overstimulated? Understimulated? Attention?

It is amazing how much just giving them the words and echoing their feelings will help them feel understood and heard. The aim is to work on the root cause, not the symptoms.

"You were feeling really sad that mama had to hold the baby and you don't like it."

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3. SAFETY FIRST
If it is a safety issue, we always step in whether it's physically removing her from her brother or keeping them apart if you are not there to supervise.

When you remove her, you stay calm and confident and let her know that "I am so sorry, I cannot let you hit brother. It isn't safe, I have to protect you both."

It is also being vigilant in knowing what her usual trigger points are and preventing those situations from happening as much as possible.

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4. EMPOWER
Lastly, the most important step is to empower her with tools for dealing with her jealousy. What other things can she hit if she's looking for that sensory output? What can she do when she feels jealous? What are some good solutions that can help her? The idea is that you ask her these questions and work out a solution that works for the whole team.

"What can you do the next time you need mama but mama is with the baby?"

When you involve your little in coming out with the solution, they are much more likely to follow through and to really understand why and what and how.

Teaching your little to honor and take charge of her feelings is a lifelong gift and skill and who better to navigate that with than with mama?

Always always remember that and that staying calm and confident is always half the battle won already.

You got this, mama!

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Racheal Kwacz is a Child and Family Development Specialist, mama tribe advocate and writer. As creator of the ‘Racheal Method’, she combines her 20+ years experience working with children in the USA and in Asia with the foundations of ‘Respectful Parenting’, leading parents and teachers around the world to raise kind, confident, compassionate, resilient little ones.

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To learn more about my upcoming Toddler Wars! workshop with Kidxy, check out:

http://www.kidxy.com/rk
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