说一说…..父母
前一阵子,参加了一个心灵课程。
一位三十岁左右的男人出来做分享。
他在新加坡工作,去年得知妈妈的癌症复发,而且还开始扩散,心里很难过,也很纠结。
他问了一个长辈朋友他该选择留在新加坡继续打拼事业还是辞职回去陪伴妈妈?
那位长辈朋友跟他说了自己亲生的经历。
长辈朋友说他年轻的时候,母亲患癌症,他带着母亲到处寻医,希望可以把母亲治好。
最后有位医生跟他说,他的母亲只剩一个月的命。
他致电给远在国外念医学系的弟弟,告诉他这个消息。
他的弟弟几年前获得了某间著名大学的医科奖学金,一个人到国外升学。
他还剩四个月就毕业,正式成为一个专业医生。
他跟教授申请一个月的假期,希望自己可以陪母亲走完她最后的人生。
结果教授不领情,说如果他这时候停学,就没办法毕业。
后来,他跟教授说,他很谢谢教授这几年对他的照顾和教导,但母亲只有一个,于是他选择了停学,回到家乡照顾妈妈。
长辈朋友说,他的弟弟归来后,每天无微不至照顾卧床的母亲,喂食,洗澡,清洗排泄物….。
而母亲在孩子细心的照顾和陪伴下多活了三个月才离开人间。
听完长辈朋友的故事,他决定辞职,回到他成长的土地,回到那个赐予他生命的母亲身边。
他的妈妈因为不想再承受多年前做化疗的幸苦,于是选择自然疗法。
他陪着妈妈一起学习气功,一起练习。
当妈妈学习遇到障碍时,他耐心教导妈妈,陪伴她一次又一次的练习。
这一次她带着妈妈,甚至爸爸一起来上课,三人之间的交流一天比一天温暖,一天比一天更往内心深处流动。
你可以看见这个三十的大男孩,边哽咽边诚恳地分享他内心的感受时,脸上闪耀着光芒,他的孝心滋养着他的生命,富足了他的灵魂,也感动了所有聆听的每一颗心。
你可以看见他患癌的妈妈因为他的爱而流露出幸福的笑容。
你可以看见他踏出的每一步是如何地一点一点软化了平时大男人的爸爸,让老夫老妻的爸妈重新感受相爱的甜蜜。
这段分享一直在我心中流淌,像安静清澈的河流,流过之处都获得了一份滋润。
今年农历过年前,九十几岁的外公中风跌倒,摔断了腿,也检查出食道收窄而必须插鼻胃管进食。
外公一向喜欢独居,就算孩子怎么相劝,他还是不愿意搬去跟任何一个孩子居住。
于是妈妈在家里附近准备了一个房子给外公住,方便照顾他老人家。
这个区可热闹了,小弟,大舅,表妹,两个表弟都住在附近,而二弟和二弟媳就住在正对面,很多照应。
外公出院后,爸妈,三个阿姨和舅舅们每天轮班,24小时在身边照顾卧床的外公。
有个专业护士来给外公做护理和检查时,跟他们说以她的经验观察,外公可能没办法坚持到过完年。
妈妈致电给我,让我有点心理准备。
农历年回家乡时,本来妈妈阿姨们已经订好餐厅一共六桌酒席给外公和我一起庆祝生日,因为我们两人是同一天生日,而且经常很靠近或在过年期间,已经有好几年,我都和阿公一起接受大家的生日祝福,一起许愿,一起吹蜡烛,切蛋糕。而这一次,阿公不止不能庆祝生日,而且长辈们也交代我们不要提这件事,因为在马来西亚华人的传统习俗里,老人家病重忌过生日。
于是所有的孩子,孙子和曾孙子每天都到外公家拜年,聚餐,非常热闹。
外公虽然行动不便,但躺在床上静静的聆听子孙们欢乐的声音,让他觉得很开心,嘴角不自觉微微上扬,好像这些陪伴就是他最好的良药。
他不停吩咐阿姨一定要记得帮他准备好红包,他要亲自给我们每人一个红包。
“爸,新年快乐,身体健康…阿公,恭喜发财,身体健康….阿祖,恭喜发财…。“我们七十几个人沿着客厅到厨房排成长长的队伍,一个一个握着阿公的手,从他手上接过那封非常珍贵的红包。
过完年,回到家,每天和妈妈通电话跟进外公的情况。
一天一天细心的照顾下和子孙每天的陪伴下,外公不止渡过了整个农历年,还自行拔掉鼻胃管(因为太不舒服),然后神奇的开始可以自己进食。
前几天,弟媳传来一条短片,一打开,看见外公竟然可以站起来慢慢的步行了。
这一次新冠肺炎疫情在全球大爆发,欧洲许多独居和疗养院的老人,在未接受正式治疗下,在家或疗养院孤独离世。
而小黄花慈善教育基金会也在行动管制令期间为一些贫穷的独居老人提供免费粮食。
以前和阿姨们一起探访过一间老人院,院长说他看到越来越多的老人院开设,心里觉得很悲哀。
我们现代人引以为傲,这越来越先进,越来越文明,科技越来越发达,物品越来越精致,教育程度越来越高的都市里,为什么就容纳不下这些前半辈子都在为社会为家庭付出的生命呢?
他们曾经也是年轻气盛,朝气蓬勃的劳动者,为什么在他们最需要被关怀,被爱护,被疼爱的最后的岁月里却被遗忘甚至遗弃?
越来越多的优越感并没能让我们感受越来越多的快乐,越来越争取的私人空间让人们的距离越拉越远……。
远到我们都看不见一些真正重要和值得珍惜的人和事。
这些老人们的家人呢?
也许背后有很多很多的故事,但这些故事是不是也许可以因为少一点的自我,多一点的同理心而被改写呢?
宇宙创造生命,而父母就是带这些生命来到这个世界的桥梁。
为什么我们可以把最好的给孩子,却不能把最好的给父母?
好友奶茶一个人照顾奶奶,爸爸和妈妈三个老人家,经常就是走路去看他们,陪他们,给他们煮好吃的,大小事都替他们打点。
每次看到她分享和奶奶,爸妈的合照,影片和文字时,心里都特别感动。
她堂堂一个影后,视后,歌后,平日的生活里,就是一个尽心尽力在照顾上面三个老人和下面一个孩子的平凡妈妈,女儿和孙女。
去年,我和一个好友探访一家慈善收留所,里头住了六十几位失智老人,他们都是因为各种各样的原因而被收留,有一些偶尔有家人来探望,有一些甚至无人问津。
看着那些老人枯萎的身躯躺在床上,空洞地望向远方,任由孤寂一寸一寸地侵蚀他的灵魂,生命就在这暗淡的小屋里渐渐地走向死亡,心里很是难过。
让我们闭上眼,回想小时候,父母辛苦照顾我们的身影,安静下来,感受一下现在的父母,我们是不是还可以聆听到他们的声音,感受彼此连接的温暖?
Let’s talk about….. Parents
Just recently, I participated in a spiritual class. There was a man, in his thirties who did a sharing session. He works in Singapore and last year, he learned that his mother’s cancer had recurred and it had begun to spread. He felt a wave of sad and complicated emotions overcome him.
He asked an elderly friend for advice, if he should choose to stay in Singapore to pursue his career or resign to accompany his mother?
This elderly friend of his then shared his own experience with him. When he was young, his own mother had cancer and he brought his mother around to seek for medical treatment, hoping to be able to cure her. Alas, one doctor gave him one news he would not want to hear, mentioning that his mother only had a month left to live.
He has a brother who had received a medical scholarship to study in a prestigious University a few years back and was all alone studying abroad. He gave his brother a call and delivered the unfortunate news. He was only four months away from graduation before he could be formally known as a professional doctor.
He applied for a month leave from his professor, hoping to accompany his mother through her final days. However, his application was rejected with the reason given that if he was to stop his courses, he would not be able to graduate.
He then thanked his professor for his care, guidance and advices throughout the many years but he chose and decided to take his leave and return to his homeland to care for his mother as there is only one mother in the world to him.
When his brother returned, with the special, attentive care and companionship given to his bed-ridden mother; feeding, bathing her, cleaning up her excrement, she managed to live through for another three months.
After listening to his friend’s story, he made a firm decision to resign from his job, returned to the place he grew up, returned to be with the woman who gave him life. His mother did not want to go through the sufferings of chemotherapy and chose holistic treatment instead.
He accompanied his mother to learn Qigong and practiced it together with her. He would be next to her, teaching her patiently whenever she encountered obstacles in her learnings and practice with her continuously.
This time around, he brought his mother and father for class. As days passed by, it can be seen that the interaction among them 3 was all about warmth, delving deeper into their inner world.
One could see a 30 years old man, choking as he shared his deepest feelings but yet his face shining radiantly as his filial attitude nourishes his life, enriching his soul, touching everyone’s heart.
You could see his mother who has cancer beaming broadly because of his love.
You could see how each step he took soften his father’s pride and ego, allowing the aged couple to mesmerize the sweetness of love again.
This sharing has nourished my inner soul, flowing through my system, like a quiet, clear river.
This year, just before the Lunar New Year, my 90 years old grandfather had a stroke and broke his leg. It was also found that his oesophagus was narrowed and a nasogastric feeding tube had to be inserted.
Grandpa has always enjoyed living alone. Nobody could convince him to stay with any of his children. So mum moved him to a house which she got nearby so that he can be taken care of easily. The location of the house is very strategic and lively as my younger brother, uncle and cousin sisters and brothers live in that area. The best part, my second brother and sister-in-law live just across the street.
When Grandpa was discharged from the hospital, my parents, three aunts and uncles took turns, rotating shifts to take care of my bed-ridden grandfather 24 hours a day.
There was a professional nurse who would come over to care, made necessary treatments and check up on Grandpa. She told my parents and relatives that from her experiences as a nurse, granddad would not survive till the Chinese New Year. My mum called me up to deliver this piece of news and told me to prepare for the worst.
We went back to our hometown for the Chinese New Year celebration and initially, my mum and aunts have made a restaurant reservation of 6 tables to have a feast for my grandfather and I as we share the same birth date and it was very close to Chinese New Year. We have had such celebrations for many years however, due to Grandpa’s condition, we were not able to celebrate together this year. We were all reminded numerous times that we are not to even talk about it by our elders because according to Malaysia’s Chinese Custom, it is best to forgo celebrating birthdays when our older relatives are gravely ill.
Therefore, all of us, the children, grandchildren and great-grandchildren went to Grandpa’s house every day to gather and have meals during the Chinese New Year celebration. It was bustling with noise and excitement. Although Grandpa was bed-ridden, listening to the gleeful voices from his grand and great-grandchildren has made him feeling happy. It was as though these companionships were the best medicine where one could see the corner of his mouth rising up faintly.
He kept reminding my aunt to prepare the Red Packets (Ang Pows) for him and that he would hand it out to us each, himself.
“Dad, Happy New Year. May you be blessed with good health”.. “Grandpa, Gong Xi Fai Cai, to good health”.. “Azu, Happy Chinese New Year..” There were about 70 of us, we could see an extremely long line forming from the living room up to the kitchen! We would hold Grandpa’s hand tenderly as we take the precious Red Packets from him.
After the Chinese New Year holidays, we all returned to our own home and I called up my mother every day to check up on Grandpa’s condition. With the sincere care and accompaniment of his children and grandchildren, not only did Grandpa spent the entire Lunar New Year with us but pull out the nasogastric tube all by himself (as it was making him feeling uncomfortable) and surprised us all as he began to eat by himself!
A few days ago, my sister-in-law sent us a short video. When I played the video, Grandpa could stand and began to walk slowly!
This time around, there is an outbreak of a new pneumonia (COVID-19) pandemic. There are many elderly people living alone or nursing homes in Europe. Due to them not being able to receive the proper treatment at the right time, many of them passed away feeling lonely.
Little Yellow Flower Education Foundation did a part by supplying free food baskets for some of the poor elderly folks who lives alone during the Malaysia Movement Control Order.
I visited a nursing home with my aunt once and the administrator told us that there were more nursing homes mushrooming and it was so disheartening for him.
It is something that is not understandable as in this modern metropolis world, where we can be proud of our achievements, where the world is more advanced, civilized, technologies are more developed, goods are more refined, education levels are standing tall, why is it that we are not able to accommodate and tolerate these elderly people who have once devoted their early days to the society and sacrificed for their family?
They were also once young and energetic laborers. Why are they now forgotten and abandoned during their last years when they are the ones who needs to be cared for, and loved most?
Feeling more superiority does not bring us more happiness. The more private space we strive for, will only distance ourselves from others…..
So far… that we could not even see and remember the people or things are really matters and are worth treasuring.
Where are the family members of these aged people?
There may be many stories to it but can it be rewritten if there were less pride and a little more empathy?
The Universe creates Life and parents are the bridges that brings life into this world. Why is it that we can provide the best for our children but not for our parents?
My friend, Rene has to take care of her grandmother, her father and mother; three golden gems. She will always walk over to their house to see them, accompany them, cook delicious meals for them and take care of their daily lives. Each time I see the pictures, videos and texts she share about her grandmother and parents, I am deeply moved.
Even as an International acclaimed actress and singer, she would still try her very best to take care of the three old family members and 1 young child as any normal mother, daughter and grand-daughter will do in her everyday life.
Last year, I visited a nursing home with a friend where there were more than 60 seniors who had dementia.
They are given shelter for various reasons. There are some seniors being visited by family members occasionally whereas there are some who are being totally neglected and abandoned. Seeing some of them, fragile looking, gazing blankly into the wall, allowing loneliness to seep into their souls by the inches, waiting for death to visit them while lying on their bed in this empty, dark shed, left me feeling extremely sad.
Let us all close our eyes, recollect our childhood’s memories, picturing the silhouettes of our parents who were taking care of us. Quiet down, feel the presence of our parents now. Can we still hear their voices, sense the connection and the warmth among us?
#说一说
#父母之恩
#letstalkabout
#loveforparents
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上海 Eric
我是之前上过老师龙课程一阶的学生,心得分享如下:
我觉得Olivia Oly老师课程内容相当扎实,老师在短短一天的时间内详细讲授了龙族的历史、签约后的注意事项、平日的仪轨、还有可以请龙族协助的事情。另外,老师为了能让我们顺利和龙族签约,课堂上也传授并实作了很多连结天使还有清理自身能量的方法,而这些方法也是我们平常每日可以在家里为自己清理的。整体来说,我觉得这是一堂很有效率而且高性价比的课程!
接下来我顺道分享一下课堂上的感受:
我不算是一个能量感很强的人,冥想时脑海中通常也不太会有丰富的画面,但是在课程中跟龙签约时,我却能明显感受到身上置入水晶的位置有一阵麻麻的感觉,并有一股压力呈现辐射状的从放置水晶的地方扩散出去;另外,跟四大元素的龙签完约回来,最后检视确认时,我的脑海中瞬间浮现一只印象鲜明的雪白东方龙,几乎是直接出现在我眼前,事后回想起来真的挺神奇的!
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以下是我多年來不同念力師畢業後給我的報告:
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今天念力的課時,做了個念力使者技術,任務是帶給我桃花,剛我給她一個任務,要讓女網友跟我主動聊天吧…馬的~~太厲害了,就在剛剛給了任務後,頭一次有女網友跟我網聊近十分鐘左右,現在還在聊~~~太厲害了。
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多得你的紫花和上了你的课程,今天和某位女同事的互动变得很亲密;首先,我再忙着处理文件时,她走过来主动搭肩和我聊天;另外;临下班前,经过她的座位
时;突然被她主动地握着我的双手取暖。而且一握就是不放开地聊着直到下班,当时候我有尝试放开并且向我的female senior officer 开玩笑地说:“你看!我们互相取暖哦!”我的senior没眼看我们打情骂俏;同時她反而握的更紧。当时候是爽到一直在笑,哈哈哈哈!紫花真的有效呀。。
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江老師,我總結了一下上了念力課後,過去那幾年特別的見證:
1)《一擲千金》電視節目,贏取獎金馬幣一萬六千兩百。
2)贏取銀行抽獎活動一部蘋果電腦。
3)無數次的博彩中獎。
4)以比市價高出馬幣兩萬賣出屋子。
5)被州政府委任為市議員。
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台北念力班畢業生的一個報告:
在還沒上課之前!!~~買威力彩!!~~中的機率少之又少!!~~上課之後!!~~以最近幾期來說!!~~雖然都是小獎!!~~六期4期有中!!
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馬來西亞念力畢業生報告:
昨晚在雲頂做了紫花,然後在賭場內和雲頂的鬼王說讓我贏一千元來在雲頂消費。賭了九把,贏七把,輸的兩把都在換桌的第一把。就真的贏了一千元,真的夠力。
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又一新鮮滾熱辣的念力班見證:
剛剛星期日上完課的一個女學生,在課程當中幫她的媽媽做一個很簡單增加財運的冥想(簡單的意思是指在一分鐘內就做完),今天她打電話給在很遠的母親,母親報告說她中了彩票。 彩票是星期日當晚買的
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來發個見證!!~~5/17念力班學員昨日在課堂上為我老爸發珠寶!!~~第二天六合彩開獎我老爸中3星!感謝珠寶!!~~
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江魔有話說:
比較經典的一個例子,是一台灣的女學員,她來馬來西亞上課後,為了想讓自己退休後的父親心情恢復過來,所以就暗地裡幫她父親做江魔發明的珠寶冥想法。結果,上課後的一個月內,她老爸連中六獎。累積數量是 20 萬台幣以上。
更經典的一個是一馬來西亞學員,同一天內中了頭、二和三獎。
要學如何修改自己的信念、如何做招人緣桃花的紫花冥想、招財的珠寶冥想、製造障礙給人的詛咒冥想、如何開光來造出有效率的神等等。
有興趣要學習念力道裡面的各種神奇方法,請趕緊報名,因為早鳥優惠價只剩四天!!
我的《念力道》就是教你怎樣很有效率的製造這些靈驗的巧合。
要報名上我在馬來西亞今年唯一一次的念力班,請鎖定 7 月 25 和 26 日。
念力道課程的『早鳥』報名價錢是 RM3500。7 月 6 日後報名的是『午鳥』價 RM 3800。7 月 20 日開始報名是『有錢鳥』價 RM 4200。
上課地點:Hotel Capitol(UM樓), Jalan Bulan, Off Jalan Bukit Bintang, 55100, Kuala Lumpur, Malaysia。開車的朋友可以把車停在 Low Yat Plaza,停車票能夠Hotel 打印以得優惠價。 (若 你需要住宿,請自行上網安排。一些國外朋友是住 Hotel Capitol附近的 Seasons View、Hotel Nova、Royal Bintang等等,甚至其他較經濟的旅店。
上課時間:9am ~ 6pm 或更遲 (8.15am報到)
課程費用不包住宿費,但包課程講義、兩天的茶點和午餐。 (所有的住宿,請自行安排)
課程完畢後,畢業生會被邀請加入網上的補習班,進行後續的學習。
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注 意!!國外朋友要報名的話,請在訂了機票後,scan了機票,再email給我,同樣的在email中要註明你的英文全名、身份 證 號碼、聯絡手機號碼、要上哪一個課程(註:只限國外報名的朋友,是來到現場才付馬幣現金,你需要付哪個價錢,就看你甚麽時候電郵你的機票給我)。
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咱们继续太乙金华宗旨,上一期讲了此书的来历,以及我个人对于“元神识神”“回光守中”这些概念的理解,那今天我们就重点讲一讲修炼!这本书之所以这么容易被西方人接受,最重要的原因是它把方法讲得非常明确具体。整个四、五、六章就是简单直白的告诉我们该怎么做!非常神奇的是跟我两年前在马来西亚的内观修行几乎一模一样,只是小部分理念略有不同。说起来也非常简单,就三个字“观呼吸”。所以我对这一修行方式是有切身体会的。而且你看啊,整个东方文明一切与哲学宗教有关的修行都是以这个方式为最基础。道家的吐纳、禅宗的入定、连儒家都有静坐,还有密宗的脉轮、瑜伽的冥想。可见在那样一个时代,大家都在寻找、摸索一种方法,将心中不断升起幻灭的妄念止住,仿佛突然之间都明白了,只有遏制住识神的活动,才能让元神获得觉醒。那第一个动作就是正身安坐将你的视线集中在鼻端,但目的并不是让我们观察鼻子,而是将我们的心念收拢回来置心于一处。因为人的眼睛与心念,是非常活跃好动的。什么叫心猿意马,就是心念像猴子一样跳来跳去,意识像野马一样肆意奔腾。而鼻端就是一个栓猴栓马的木桩,木桩不是重点,重点是把心念栓住。总结起来就八个字:观鼻存想,意守天心。简单吗?其实超难的!大家可以自己尝试,你稍微一晃神就突然惊觉,自己怎么在想这么多乱七八糟的事情…注意啊,它并不是刚一出现就被你发觉,而是肆意飘荡了很久,而且它不仅仅飘荡到一个念头,是一个接着一个不同的念头,当你突然反应过来的时候。这些杂念持续了多久,又是从哪里萌生你完全不知道,然后赶紧把心念重新收拢回来。就这样经过反反复复的练习,你能保持“无念”的时间就会越来越长。佛家将这一方法称为“止观”。
小时候去寺庙偶尔观察佛像,就总有这样的疑问,为什么所有佛菩萨的形象都是低眉垂目半睁眼的,然后我就去问周围的老人和僧侣,得到的答案都是因为慈悲,不忍看世间苦难。诶,这个回答高大上,高到你不会且不敢有任何质疑。直到我自己做了这个动作,才突然意识到。这不就是在“观呼吸”,这就是在用最直白的方式引导我修行、修心,只有收服心念才能脱离尘世万千苦海。所以教会我收服心念的方式就是在渡化我,所以老人与僧侣的回答也不能说不对,只是这里面隔着一层他们的理解和它他缺失的认知。如果我们再换位思考,一个真正拥有大智慧的人一定知道越是复杂的理念、越是会在历史的长河中不断附加他人的理解,就越是难以穿透时间,将他最原始的表达传送于我。反之越是简单、基础、直白,就越容易传达,所以大道一定致简。自此之后我再看到佛像,仿佛佛祖就在跟我说两个字:照做!有很多小伙伴提出这样的质疑,说这个不能瞎练吧,这肯定需要有正派宗师的引导不然很容易走火入魔。我能理解你的担心,但我并不完全认同这个说法。因为我实在是无法想象,一个正心诚念的人仅仅用观呼吸的方式来收拢自己内心的杂念,怎么就走火入魔了呢?这,这肯定是电视剧看多了呀!其实我也有跟这本书的翻译者:张卜天老师聊起这件事,为什么西方人按书中的方式修行更容易显现效果,而中国人反而会遇到一些阻碍。就是因为咱们血液里本身就流淌着儒道两家的文化基因,咱们看到书中某句话,就会很自然的往更深层去解读、引申、联想,西方人不懂这个,他只能按字面的意思单纯理解。所以我觉得真的不要把这件事想得太过玄幻、深奥、复杂。还是那句话:大道至简。
而且我觉得一定要有正派宗师的指引,跟这本书的出现本身就存在着悖论…一定要有宗师指引、不然容易走火入魔、那就说明只能以师徒相授的方式传承、那为什么会有这本书的流传呢?作者写书的目的就是为了咱俩不见面我也能将我对这个世界认识传达给你。写这本书最大的意义,不就是让那些没有机缘遇到好老师的人,也可以看书自学嘛!我当然承认,伴随着名师指引我可能会少走很多弯路,但普通人要去哪里寻找这样一位老师呢?而且他怎么判断这位老师的理解一定正确呢?万一你觉得他无比正确,然后你问:师父您的师父当年是怎么教您的?
师父说:我看书自学的,你说你怎么办!所以说无论是老师还是书本,都只是在引领你入门,师父领进门,修行还是在个人!说到这里突然想起一段小故事…有一个高僧云游四方,一天夜里经过一个村庄,看到不远处一栋民宅闪烁着一层淡淡的佛光,心想这户人家一定有一位大修行者,于是登门拜访。没想到开门的竟是一位非常普通的农村老太太,高僧被请进屋,少坐饮茶、相互攀谈。得知家中只有老太太一人居住,平时的生活就是吃斋念佛。高僧问说您平时都诵些什么经文呢?老太太说哎呦这不懂,只知道多做善事不杀生,平时就多念念“那么阿弥陀佛”,高僧噗嗤就乐了,那么阿弥陀佛…是南无阿弥陀佛!老太太一听,啊是这呀…哎呦你看看我,老糊涂了啥也不懂,谢谢大师指点。高僧也双手合十点头,说那行,老人家早点休息,我还得夜路赶到山顶的寺院投宿。于是走出村庄一路上山,到了半山腰呢,再回头看看村庄里老太太的房子,表情瞬间凝固,之前那淡淡的佛光怎么没了…于是高僧赶紧折返下山,又敲开老太太的房门说:老人家,您之前那“那么阿弥陀佛”才是对的,千万不要跟着我的念,您原来怎么念就还是怎么念。第二天夜里,高僧还是不太安心,出了庙门站在山顶遥望村庄,老太太屋外的淡淡佛光依然没有再出现。大家知道为什么吗?是这位高僧不小心打碎了她的信念,所以我一直觉得信念远比正确重要得多。但是大家也不要误解,我绝不是说正确不重要。但是大家要明白,这个世界就不存在绝对正确,我们只能不断的努力接近。所以在努力前行的过程中,信念就变得更为重要一些。
当然这本书里也会单独有一个篇章叫做“回光差谬”,就是你在练习时容易犯下的错误…第一大谬误就是不要过分执着于一呼一吸,你不能像个拿着鞭子监督奴隶的监工,一直紧张兮兮的高度警惕,不准偷懒啊,不对。但是又不能过分松懈,懈到昏昏沉沉、心如死灰,犹如枯木顽石。杂念确实没有了,生命迹象也没有了。咱们是要把识神收服,而不是把他弄死。一定是顺其自然、心神安逸。即无杂念、又十分清醒,那八个字怎么说的?观鼻存想,意守天心。什么叫存想,存想就是保持意识的清醒。道家也将这种难以描述的尺度解释为:是那么,非那么。非那么,却那么。总之就是一种似观非观、似想非想状态。就是你一定要寻找到那个刚刚好的分寸感。第二个比较容易犯的错误他是放在后面几个章节讲解的,我也把他提到前面来归为一类,就是万万不可急于求成。就是你不要急着去验证他,功夫到了该来的自然而然的来,有了某些阶段性的进展,也不要执着于这些进展…一如往常,该干什么干什么!要把这一功课完全融入你的身体,是你生活的一部分,是你的生活方式。第三个要注意的,他也是放在独立的一章叫“回光活法”,是不要荒废自己的正业,如果能够保持每日清晨静坐一时半刻最好,其实练习到了一定程度,你是能够做到即使不静坐也可随时、随地、随事的内观,感受自己的呼吸,牵住自己的妄念。我觉得这一点也很好,不然我去修仙了,父母妻儿谁来养!另外也千万不要在别人面前搞得神神怪怪,不要刻意做给别人看。
接下来就是第九章百日筑基,就是你要用差不多100天的时间,为修炼内丹打造一个稳固的基础。当然有的人慢一点、有的人快一些,所谓的百日只是一个大概的范围。在我看来,这就是一个净化身心的过程。我当时在马来西亚的内观是15天,已经能够感受到一些身体的变化了,比方说你会觉得整个人特别清爽、特别精神、特别明朗,不浑浊!你所有感官在逐渐变得敏锐,尤其是对食物深层的味道,会比之前更丰富。还有一个感觉就是,你知道天气很热,马来西亚嘛,而且那个地方没有空调,但是你并不会感觉很闷很燥。百日我是真的没有体验过,书中描述的状态是:精足、气满、神旺。然后在这样的一个过程中,会有一些奇妙的感觉,大概有几个类型。第一种叫神入谷中,就是你在静坐时,如果周围有人讲话,你会觉得这个声音很远,是从遥远深邃的山谷中传出来的,而且还带着回声。你并未刻意去听,但却又非常清晰。第二种叫做虚室生白就是你在静坐的时候,突然看见一团弥散开来的白光,仿佛身处云雾之中。第三种叫做神归顶天,就是觉得自己的身体变得非常的绵软轻盈,而且伴随缓缓上浮的感觉。但并不是真的飞起来啊,是一种气场向上汇聚于头顶的体验。当你真的能够做到“心空漏尽,内丹也就逐渐形成,他并不是一颗实体的药丸,说到底他还是你的一种感受。据说能看见一些奇妙的图案,所以荣格为什么会将书名定位“金花”的秘密呢!就是因为荣格走访了众多欧洲的“修行者”,把他们眼前出现的图案绘制出来。欧洲人觉得这就是神奇的“曼陀罗”所叫做金花的秘密。
很多人心里都有这样的疑问,说:壮哥,这…这真的有用吗?我觉得这个话得分两头说,读书归读书,修炼归修炼!咱们由浅入深…读任何书都一样,首先满足自己的求知欲和好奇心,也可以更多面的了解自己这个民族的文化基因。同时我在想象一个最低作用的场景是,就是如果有一天一位欧洲青年拿着这本书说:你知道这个嘛?你可以很淡定回答:嗯,读过!如果你自己本身很认同这本书的方法,诶!你们就可以各自聊聊东西方对此书不同的理解和认识。如果你不认同这本书的说法,那更有意思!你就可以用一种很奇怪的眼神看着他说:不会吧,你们还真练啊!这时候这老外肯定就蒙了…嗯…你们不练嘛!此刻你也无需明确否认,只留给他一个饱含深意的微笑。怎么样,有没有一种居高临下的感觉?当然这只是我自己跟自己开的玩笑。接下来聊一聊修炼的作用,首先它是一本道家养生著作,我们先不谈它玄幻的一面,单纯从我们以往对于这个世界的认识来看,你觉得“养生”二字能做到吗?我觉得可以…如果一个人面对任何生活中复杂事物都能做到,不烦扰、不动气、不妄想、不奢求,那不活该人家健康长寿!再接下来更上一层,能不能获得通天达地的智慧我不知道,但我知道历史上的众多牛人都习惯于静坐养性…佛祖、老子、孔圣这就不用说了。离我们这个时代比较近且历史上有明确记载的,王阳明牛不牛!曾国藩牛不牛!都是既能做学问,又能干实事儿大神。进了朝堂就是精明睿智的政治家,进了学堂就是圣贤道德的教育家,最不可思议的进了战场就是百战百胜军神,为什么?静坐养性,内观冥想。究竟在用怎样的方式成就他们的智慧?我几年前看一部书叫“战国纵横”,后来改名叫“鬼谷子的局”,苏秦、张仪、孙膑、庞涓四子上山拜师的前几年,什么都没学,天天就在那打坐磨炼心智。我一开始不是特别理解,我想这要是我,早就撂挑子走人,但是越看越明白。你想啊一个人能沉寂下来将大把的时间花在那么无聊的静坐上,那这个人对于时间的理解跟普通人一定是不一样,那得多能沉得住气!因为很多人很多事,输就输在心急浮躁。几年的时间,每天都在摒除杂念就做一件事“观呼吸”,你说这样的人做起实事来又是多么专注?因为他已经非常习惯于“置心于一处”,他就把手头要处理的这一件事当作“鼻端”当作“呼吸”,此外不生一念。因为人的精力和智慧都是有限的,让琐碎的妄念拆的七零八落,就一定没有凝聚起来更具有力量。再来这样的人精力一定极其旺盛,因为他平时可以控制心念,它本身消耗的精力就少。你呢?家事、琐事、暧昧事,事事烦扰,你领兵打仗,碰到一个这样的对手。心无杂念、气定神闲、冷静专注、精力充沛!这谁能扛得住啊!所以他不但不会耽误你的事业,反而会赋予你更强大的能量。其实能达到这样的效果我觉得已经值了…但我们还是要再往上说一层,如果真的练成内丹,修成长生不老。或者他仅仅只是让我年迈的时候更具活力,更不容易生病,我觉得我已经快乐似神仙了。这两集节目太乙金华宗旨,绝对值得你召集一家老小组团观看!尤其适合转发给家里的亲戚长辈…以后过年团聚,再有七大姑八大姨,问成绩、问工资、问女朋友、问生孩子!你就说:二姨二姨,我欲修仙。有成之日,必带你升天。节目最后壮哥不得不再次反复的强调,这所有的内容都是我个人的理解,于各位而言不一定正确,它只能作为你学习的参考。如果有兴趣,还是要自己去读书、去感悟、去尝试。在这个过程当中,也可以去多看一看其他老师的理解,但同样只能作为参考。相信聪明如你,一定会有更多更深的领悟。
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