【一念桃花開】(English writing below)
The Peach Blossom Blooms In a Single Thought
我年少時就有暗瘡的問題， 因為使用藥物，後來皮膚就變過敏。
無論是開架或專櫃，不是很多護膚品牌適合我，，而很慶幸的，Innisfree對我的肌膚還蠻管用的。
昨晚，我到Innisfree的專賣店把用完的護膚品空瓶拿去回收。
然後，就在店裡逛，想找我慣用的寒蘭睡眠面膜，可是怎麼找都找不到。我轉頭向身旁熱情的服務小姐詢問。
她便跑去請教一位在收銀台的較資深同事。
得知斷貨了，店員也不曉得幾時會來貨。
後來，我選擇買綠茶睡眠面膜，因為在網路上有讀到不錯的評價。
當收銀員把產品交給我時，她叫我稍等。接著，她找尋了一些贈品送給我。這是許多韓國護膚美妝品牌的一貫作風。
我拿著贈品離開店時，對收銀員的舉動忽然恍然大悟。
我買了一個睡眠面膜
收銀員又送我兩款睡眠面膜的贈品。
這是明智之舉 - 給予客人她會用的產品，而不是一些她可能不會使用的產品。
畢竟，不是每個女生都會在自己的臉上，抹上幾百種護膚品。
其中一個贈品是我剛才在尋找的寒蘭睡眠面膜。
這真是暖心之舉 - 記得客人在尋找的護膚品。
她不知道我是否是這產品的回頭客，或是第一次購買。但重點是，她不但記得我的詢問，還特別贈給我小樣品，讓我這心願得以滿願，不至於白跑一趟。
她這小小的舉動，就是佛法上所說的佈施。
佈施最基本的用意，就是付出自己，解決別人的困厄，給予別人快樂。
盡的心意越多，種的福根越深，若再加上歡喜心去做，那未來際得到的敬愛，必會廣大無邊。
很多人以為佈施這字是用在外人身上，可不知我們身邊的人也一樣仰賴我們的佈施，心靈才能得到愛的滋潤。
我客人當中就有很多這樣的例子：
老公嫌太太忙著孩子，無暇聆聽他的心事，沒有支持他的夢想。
太太嫌老公變了心，沒有像熱戀時那麼地愛護她，照顧家庭。
爸爸嫌兒子不長進，老是打電動。
兒子嫌爸爸不了解他的喜好，總是逼他做他不喜歡的事。
媽媽嫌女兒沒大沒小， 女兒嫌媽媽規矩多。
老闆嫌員工不夠盡責，員工嫌老闆吝嗇。
這些問題的起源，都是來自於兩人計較佈施，或不願佈施。而物以類聚的原理，就會吸引了自己一樣的人。
在家裡，我們需要桃花，才能得到家人之間的愛戴和和睦。
在外，我們也需要桃花，做起事來才會比一般人容易。
而桃花的大小，來自於你能佈施多少的愛。你佈施的心態，也決定了你福報的大小。
我們的周遭都是佈施的機緣，所以不可能沒有機會佈施。
小的佈施，是在家。走出家門，更有大把佈施機會包圍著你，東南西比中，360度你轉哪一個度數，都有佈施的因，是看你怎麼去把握。
所以沒有所謂為什麼命會這樣，而是你沒有把握機會。
嘗試釋放自己，去擁抱一個更有愛的你，更有愛的生活方式。當你能把這快樂帶給很多人時，你會發現你生命的無限潛能，而重新愛上自己。這也是你能給予你自己最大的敬愛，最大的桃花之一了。
p.s. 若不知何謂桃花，可觀看我這影片：https://youtu.be/ECUW9F8Cybg
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I have acne skin as a teenager, and somewhere along the way, my skin turned sensitive.
Not many skincare brands, drugstore or over-the-counter, work for me, and Innisfree, to my delight, is one that works
So just now, I dropped by Innisfree to return my empty bottles (in my Stories)
I then browsed the shelves, looking for the Jeju Orchid Sleeping Mask. It was not there. I turned to ask the enthusiastic salesgirl beside me.
She went off to ask the more senior staff, who was behind the cashier counter.
No luck, it was out of stock and they had no idea when it would be back.
I ended up buying the Green Tea Sleeping Mask, having read great reviews online.
As the cashier passed me my purchase, she told me to wait for she wished to give me some samples to try, the de-facto practice of many Korean skincare and makeup brands.
When I left the store with the samples in hand, it dawned on me what the cashier had done.
I bought a sleeping mask.
She gave me two other sleeping mask varieties.
That’s smart - giving what the customer uses, and not some product that that customer may not use.
Not every girl plaster a million products on her face.
One of the samples was the Jeju Orchid Sleeping Mask!
That’s heartwarming - to remember that the customer was looking for.
I could either be keen in that mask, or a repeat buyer. But the key is, not only did she remember my inquiry, she gave me a sample that would not make this trip a wasted one.
This small act of consideration from the sales person is what we called Giving, in Buddhism.
The more thought you put in your giving, the more good fortune you are planting for yourself. When you give with happiness, then the love and respect you receive in future will be vast and boundless.
Many people mistook that the word Giving is to be used on outsiders. They are unaware that the people around us also need our giving to nourish their hearts.
There are many such examples in my clients:
The husband feels that his wife is too occupied with the children. She does not make time to listen to him or support his dream.
The wife rants about her husband having a change of heart and does not care for her, or love the family as before.
The father finds fault with the son's constant gaming, and scolds him for not being hardworking.
The son thinks the father does not care about what he likes, and always forces him to do things that he does not like.
The mother says her daughter is rude to her, while the daughter complains that her mother has too many rules.
The boss sees that his employees are not doing their best, while the employees sees their boss as a stingy man.
All these problems arise from two persons being calculative in giving, or unwilling to give. Given the principle of "Birds of the same feather flock together", you inevitably attract a person who is similar to yourself.
In the confines of our home, we do need Peach Blossom Luck, so that there will be love and harmony among our family.
Beyond our home, Peach Blossom Luck is definitely a must, for that will help us to get things done easier.
The amount of our Peach Blossom Luck is dependant on how much love you give out. The attitude you have when giving will decide the size of your good fortune.
There are plenty of opportunities for us to give, so there is no such thing as no chance to give.
Small acts of giving starts from home.
As you step out of your home door, there are even more giving opportunities surrounding you, no matter which degree of direction you turn.
It is up to you to grasp the opportunity. Like the Innisfree sales person who sees hundreds of people weekly, do your job well, and do it very well every day. That is massive giving, which will sow many seeds of favourable Peach Blossom Luck.
So there is no such thing as to why your Destiny isn't great. It was you who did not make the smart decision to do the right thing.
Try to let go of your resistance, and go embrace a more loving you, a more loving way of living. When you can bring happiness to more people, you will discover the limitless potential in your life and fall in love with yourself all over again. That will be one of the greatest love and respect and Peach Blossom Luck you can give yourself.
p.s. if you do not know what Peach Blossom Luck is, watch my video over here: https://youtu.be/ECUW9F8Cybg
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